From the discovery day of who the OW is, I literally exposed them to their officemates even to their manager (which is a friend of the OW), my family & H's family. I thought they could help stop the A. The OW (a single mom) tried to resign from work but their manager did not allow her and talked to her. H blaming/put guilt on me if the OW lose her job because she has a 5 yr old daughter to support. Their co-workers just feasted on the news. And of course H & the OW denied it. H's family talked to him thru mobile phone. They expressed their disapoinment and told him to stop the nonsense. His father even condemns him in behalf of the family. The output: H did not talk to his father for 6 mos and his sister and brothers. He just doesnt want to talk to them.
I did all the mistakes of a BW. But eventually showed him the door. He is living with his twin brother for 1 1/2 yr until now. For all those months of being depressed I came to do slowly the 180. Im just tired of being a victim. And I have 2 kids. An 8yr old daughter and a 2 yr old son.
I told him if he wants the lifestyle of a single man so be it.
After 8mos being kicked from the house, H is texting me that he is tired at work and he wants to come home. And I will always reply that he dont have a family and a wife to come home to. That he should be responsible for his choices and eventhough I am still his wife (we dont have divorce law here), he cannot just toss me aside and pick me up whenever he wants to.
He is so thin right now. No one is doing the laundry, the ironing, paying of bills, shopping for his clothing needs, cooking, cleaning the house even polishing his shoes and etc...
I dont feel any true reconciliation from him. He does not talk anything abt the affair. And my gut feeling is they are still together. I think H just want to have his cake and eat it too.
Well, Im not that dumb anymore. I am not also interested in getting us back together. Even if he ended the affair, not interested to be hurt again.
I thought exposure will have big impact to stop their affair. They just went underground. And now his actions like washing the dishes, flirting and begging for food are confusing me.
I tried to run but he doesnt want to have legal separation. He said he will not cooperate and will not sign. And I am determine not to take him back again.
From the discovery day of who the OW is, I literally exposed them to their officemates even to their manager (which is a friend of the OW), my family & H's family. I thought they could help stop the A. The OW (a single mom) tried to resign from work but their manager did not allow her and talked to her. H blaming/put guilt on me if the OW lose her job because she has a 5 yr old daughter to support. Their co-workers just feasted on the news. And of course H & the OW denied it. H's family talked to him thru mobile phone. They expressed their disapoinment and told him to stop the nonsense. His father even condemns him in behalf of the family. The output: H did not talk to his father for 6 mos and his sister and brothers. He just doesnt want to talk to them.
I did all the mistakes of a BW. But eventually showed him the door. He is living with his twin brother for 1 1/2 yr until now. For all those months of being depressed I came to do slowly the 180. Im just tired of being a victim. And I have 2 kids. An 8yr old daughter and a 2 yr old son.
I told him if he wants the lifestyle of a single man so be it.
After 8mos being kicked from the house, H is texting me that he is tired at work and he wants to come home. And I will always reply that he dont have a family and a wife to come home to. That he should be responsible for his choices and eventhough I am still his wife (we dont have divorce law here), he cannot just toss me aside and pick me up whenever he wants to.
He is so thin right now. No one is doing the laundry, the ironing, paying of bills, shopping for his clothing needs, cooking, cleaning the house even polishing his shoes and etc...
I dont feel any true reconciliation from him. He does not talk anything abt the affair. And my gut feeling is they are still together. I think H just want to have his cake and eat it too.
Well, Im not that dumb anymore. I am not also interested in getting us back together. Even if he ended the affair, not interested to be hurt again.
I thought exposure will have big impact to stop their affair. They just went underground. And now his actions like washing the dishes, flirting and begging for food are confusing me.
I tried to run but he doesnt want to have legal separation. He said he will not cooperate and will not sign. And I am determine not to take him back again.
What country are you in?
What are you asking? You say you do not want him back and you can't divorce him?
Exposure does not always kill the affair it shines a light on it and is one of the tools that helps destroys the secrecy. It often makes life very uncomfortable for the waywards as you have described in your post. I suspect it had an bigger effect on your husband and OW than you realise.
Ultimately it is your decision to R, your husband chose to cheat and is no longer in a position to decide the future of your marriage. Posted via Mobile Device
He is so thin right now. No one is doing the laundry, the ironing, paying of bills, shopping for his clothing needs, cooking, cleaning the house even polishing his shoes and etc...
After giving the boot to my cheating wife, I had to start taking care of all that stuff myself. It wasn't that hard. You should tell him you're not interested in a man who's so dumb he can't eat.
The question is, what did the exposure of their affair do? Im just curious. And he texted this to me 2 weeks ago. "Remember this. My obligation and responsbility to you will never end bec you are my wife. If you cant repay that so be it but that is my stand until my last breath. Whether you will give that opportunity or not. You are my spouse even if you dont consider me one anymore. Sorry for making you feel bad. Just got no one to say that im hungry and crying while eating the bread i brought there (house) and bringing it again in the office to eat as my lunch." How pathetic!
Shame , it is his choice to cheat not yours. Only he knows what exposure did and the impact on him , from his words loneliness and lack of good food are a starting surmission. Posted via Mobile Device
Exposure does not always kill the affair it shines a light on it and is one of the tools that helps destroys the secrecy. It often makes life very uncomfortable for the waywards as you have described in your post. I suspect it had an bigger effect on your husband and OW than you realise.
Ultimately it is your decision to R, your husband chose to cheat and is no longer in a position to decide the future of your marriage. Posted via Mobile Device
Does it adds more excitement to their affair? Gives them the more thrilling passion?
H said before that in the end Im still his wife. WoW!
After giving the boot to my cheating wife, I had to start taking care of all that stuff myself. It wasn't that hard. You should tell him you're not interested in a man who's so dumb he can't eat.
Hahaha... He said he dont want to eat any fastfood food.
Shame , it is his choice to cheat not yours. Only he knows what exposure did and the impact on him , from his words loneliness and lack of good food are a starting surmission. Posted via Mobile Device
that serves him right. Now that he sees that I am happy with my life right now and with the kids, he is giving a hint that he wants to come home without any reconciliation or remorse! LONELINESS? I set him free to be with his OW and yet he still lonely?
Hahaha... He said he dont want to eat any fastfood food.
Tell him to get a cookbook. I made a mess of it the first couple of days but now my kids say I can cook just as good as their mom.
You obviously don't see much in him, but I bet you'd at least think more of him if he started taking proper care of his own day-to-day life. If you would care to, you could tell him that and then maybe he'd do it. Would get the whining off your back at the very least.
Talk to a lawyer about suing the company. By refusing her leaving,they are effectively condoning and enabling the affair, so you may be able to sue the pants of the company and the boss. Posted via Mobile Device
Does it adds more excitement to their affair? Gives them the more thrilling passion?
H said before that in the end Im still his wife. WoW!
No it does not give them more thrilling passion. It ruins the affair. If you had not found out about the affair and not exposed it, it would probably still be going on behind your back. He would have you.. his nice wife and the other woman for fun. He would have two women to meet all of his needs and keep him happy.
The probelm is that while it did break them up, he has not done the things that are needed to win you back. It seems from your posts that you do not love him or want him back.
So get a separation. Double check on this.. usually the other spouse does not haveto sign the separation. If they refuse to then the judge will give it anyway.
What country do you live in that they do not have divorce law?
On the topic of food, tell him he can learn to cook.
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Exposure of H's affair did nothing 
He said he dont want to eat any fastfood food.
that serves him right. Now that he sees that I am happy with my life right now and with the kids, he is giving a hint that he wants to come home without any reconciliation or remorse! LONELINESS? I set him free to be with his OW and yet he still lonely? 
