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Coping with Infidelity Relationship recovery from the destructiveness of infidelity.

View Poll Results: My WS's chose to cheat with someone:
more physically attractive than myself 14 16.67%
less physically attractive than myself 51 60.71%
about the same level of attractiveness as myself 13 15.48%
who had a (will explain below) 6 7.14%
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Old 03-31-2012, 09:26 PM   #91 (permalink)
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Go figure. Your description of the OM just about fits me to a tee if you leave out the willingness to chase married women.
I too barely got out of high school (had to take nine classes my senior year to graduate), then let poor judgement allow me to drop out of college. And my only time in my life where I made any "real" money, I let the politicians and the unions put me out of business.
And yet, here we are in pretty much the same spot, *****ing about our cheating ex's.
lol no offence intended buddy and I have not dumped my wife so she is not an x.
The question was if the OM was a downgrade and in my opinion he was a big time downgrade.
I guess when you have been wrongly prescribed a powerful medication like Zoloft and been taking it for 6 months maybe not only her judgment was impaired but maybe even her eye sight was as well.
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Old 04-01-2012, 04:26 PM   #92 (permalink)
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Down cheated....

And that peefed me off... My words to Spouse was

WTH.... you could do so much better, thats just nasty... why in the he** choose a skank to cheat with???? (I laughed in my spouses face)

Dont know why I had that reaction but I did.. WEIRD RIGHT!!!

The thing is, my H had convencied AP, that I was fat, ugly and just down right gross.. (Not a bit true) when the AP became curious, I guess thats what you would call it, about me.. She stalked me until she got to see me, and this right out of my h mouth.. AP told him he lied to her, she say me and said I was gorgouse there is no way for her to compete with me....

MY words to him, him... WTH would she have a need to compiete with me if yall are just freinds... Dumb as*es couldnt even get there story straight...

O and she was prego not by him but was prego, dont know why he chose a prego girl for...

She is younger than me, but I look, and Im not bragging...I get told this alot, just trying to paint a clear picture about it... I get told that I look like a teenager myself... I honelstly think I look younger than her, but at least I can swoop out my drivers Licences and get a lotto ticket if I wanted,, Just sayn..

So I dont really get it at all... somtimes I think maybe it was because I was getting to independent, and this girl "needed" him.. ya she did, a SUGAR DADDY.. and he was to stupid or blind to see it for what it was,,,, Igo maybe who knows,,, I sure know I dont..
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Old 04-02-2012, 09:36 AM   #93 (permalink)
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I called into my H workplace while A was going on and she came onto shop floor while I was talking to him , after I left she apparantly came out to him and said "If that s wot you ve got waiting at home evey night what the fvck have you been doing having sex with me?" So even she knew she was a downgrade - thats the first time I ve realised that - God I love this site!
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Old 04-08-2012, 04:05 AM   #94 (permalink)
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Definite downgrade. I can't even fathom why she would choose him. She is actually quite beautiful and could have most anyone she wanted. Who knows how these choices get made. All I know is that the grass doesn't look greener anymore.
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Old 04-08-2012, 05:14 AM   #95 (permalink)
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Mine Down cheated physically...I remember she told me at the start whereby I didnt know who OM was; What, I have good taste in men...stating it as a fact.

When I figured out who it was...I was relieved...then upset.

Its like finding out your wife didnt want the brand new shiny BMW car, but wanted a Second Hand Mini Van. It didnt make any sense.

Sure the second hand mini van might have had "Áharm' but you just knew under the bonnet it wasnt going to run the distance...
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Old 04-08-2012, 05:21 AM   #96 (permalink)
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I would like to say that OM was a downgrade, but truth to be told he is looking disturbingly similar to me. Also same age (we were born two months apart!), same level of education, income and so on.
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Old 04-08-2012, 01:37 PM   #97 (permalink)
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To attempt to tap into the wayward mind is folly. You cannot find reason in insanity, that is why its better to just move on and find a sane person who will love and cherish you.
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Old 04-08-2012, 02:09 PM   #98 (permalink)
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In my case it started so many years ago with upgrades, then as she followed this spiral of self destruction she down graded as the ONS picked up. Then she went back to up grading.

I was told that it was one of her enablers that talked her out of the crap she was going home with and started to get alot more pickier. The last was physicaly better, but emotionally and finacialy he was less.

Geez Bandit, the story I could tell you. LOL

At the end of the day my wife saw no moral value in the OM's....ironic isn't?

One more thing, the guy ( I mean kid) she fall for the most didn't have a schordum ( no balls), normal penis, but literially no balls....... go figure. This kid actually dumped her twice back in '01 and then in '08.

Then there was this kid with a pierced penis, he would cry every...................................
Again the stories I could tell you about these "down grades".
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Old 04-08-2012, 02:47 PM   #99 (permalink)
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Definite downgrade. I can't even fathom why she would choose him. She is actually quite beautiful and could have most anyone she wanted. Who knows how these choices get made. All I know is that the grass doesn't look greener anymore.
Same thing for me, everyone is going "WTF"? The W's very pretty, could have had her pick of Guys through her employment, Dr.s, Lawyers, Professionals etc... It blows me away.
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Old 04-08-2012, 02:50 PM   #100 (permalink)
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To attempt to tap into the wayward mind is folly. You cannot find reason in insanity, that is why its better to just move on and find a sane person who will love and cherish you.
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Wise Words Bandit, in their own mind he's/she's Prince Charming/ Lady Di. .......probably much like we were at one time ;~)
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Old 04-08-2012, 03:02 PM   #101 (permalink)
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In my case OW had a very "different" look. Personally I can't say many people would find it attractive but I can see how she would have been pretty once upon a time before the ridiculous amount of tattoos and facial piercing.... oh and that dead look in her eyes coming from years of drug use and being an evil witch I would imagine.

She is skinnier than me and has a boob job so physique wise sure, she is probably "more attractive" but she has such a pungent and vile personality (even prior to me finding out about the PA) that no one in their right mind would consider her attractive.
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Old 04-09-2012, 12:17 AM   #102 (permalink)
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new here..shes 100lbs heaver then me ..loud, drinks, smokes, if she takes her bra off they probably hang to her feet.married 3 times .she on craigslist she up graded to linkin, takes her vibrator with her guess it makes it a 3 sum.. opinionated,like to be the life of the party, enjoys putting her friends down.. probably messing with her friends boyfriends/husbands.. if my twit took her to see his parents 1 would have a heat attack the other a stroke..her husband is a professor at the local U..her soalmate is 70+.. shes 51..she a gold digger likes to call herself wdermaker.. likes to play the victim.. when she and I had a messager B party she was the life of the party...
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In my case it started so many years ago with upgrades, then as she followed this spiral of self destruction she down graded as the ONS picked up. Then she went back to up grading.

I was told that it was one of her enablers that talked her out of the crap she was going home with and started to get alot more pickier. The last was physicaly better, but emotionally and finacialy he was less.

Geez Bandit, the story I could tell you. LOL

At the end of the day my wife saw no moral value in the OM's....ironic isn't?

One more thing, the guy ( I mean kid) she fall for the most didn't have a schordum ( no balls), normal penis, but literially no balls....... go figure. This kid actually dumped her twice back in '01 and then in '08.

Then there was this kid with a pierced penis, he would cry every...................................
Again the stories I could tell you about these "down grades".
No Balls? WTF.. how did that happen?
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Old 04-09-2012, 12:56 PM   #104 (permalink)
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Oh, forgot to add that even my MIL couldn't believe the downgrade. When I had received an errant text and disclosed to her, she laughed and said she had met "Jim" and there is no way! She was shocked when she saw the evidence.
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Old 04-09-2012, 03:11 PM   #105 (permalink)
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The man my wife left me for is younger, taller, more handsome, more muscular, and much, much, much richer.

It was a major upgrade in literally every single category that defines a man and that made it twice as painful and has absolutely crushed my self-esteem.

Uugggggggghhhhhhhh........
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