This kind of advice again. You know this type of stuff gets people hurt, right? He just needs to sort out his business and move on. That is such a b!tch move to ruin careers because his woman can't keep her legs closed. If my woman cheats, how can I be mad at the guy? HE'S A GUY! He needs to check her!
Yes, they're both at fault, I know that's the sole argument, but who is MOST at fault here? Her. Deal with the consequences within the marriage, whatever that may entail for you now, but don't be a sour grape kinda guy, no one respects him.
It's not a b#tch move. Its called telling the truth and holding people accountable for their actions.
Keeping silent and helping people cover up things is not only incredibly passive, but it just reinforces with them and others that this crap is tolerated. Posted via Mobile Device
I have to say I completely agree with this. She must be snapped out of her fog and she must face some consequences for her actions. The OM needs to face consequences as well. Bottom line is that unless she is held accountable your kids will learn it's ok to hurt people and cheat and nothing will come of it.
This kind of advice again. You know this type of stuff gets people hurt, right? He just needs to sort out his business and move on. That is such a b!tch move to ruin careers because his woman can't keep her legs closed. If my woman cheats, how can I be mad at the guy? HE'S A GUY! He needs to check her!
Yes, they're both at fault, I know that's the sole argument, but who is MOST at fault here? Her. Deal with the consequences within the marriage, whatever that may entail for you now, but don't be a sour grape kinda guy, no one respects him.
You are so wrong here. He has every right to do whatever he can legally to the other man. The gloves are off. This man stepped into his marriage without concern. This OM must never be tempted to be involved with her again. For this to be true, there must be as much consequences as possible. The OM is lucky that we live in a civilized society. In the past less civilized times (and in some countries even today) the penalty dealt for cheating with another persons spouse would be far worse.
She has left now and I am here to pick up the pieces.
I know you don't think so now, but this is a good thing. You finally have the truth about what kind of "woman" you have been married to. You can finally be free.
Did she take the boys with her? If not, document this. It may be the only way you could get custody, because being an unscrupulous woman, unfortunately, won't count against her. As the mother, she already has the advantage. If you can document that she left and didn't take the boys with her, that might work in your favor.
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How could she ever do this me? Or our family?
I'm going to say it, as harsh as it is, its the truth. Because she is a low down, dirty wh0re. Maybe to do this to someone who isn't blood is one thing, but when you cheat on your spouse, you cheat on your kids.
And cheaters, don't even chime in saying that isn't true. When you hurt the person your kids love, you hurt the kids.
Not only that, you rob time from your kids in favor of having sex with someone other than their other parent.
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I'm just lost at the moment, my life how it has been for the last 10 years is now over, and my two boys are now from a broken home.
Don't ever think that. No matter what happens, they have you!!
Its proven now they can't count on their mother to look after their best interests. But as long as they have you, they have something. Just remember that.
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I never thought anything like this would happen.
None of us did. It happens to the best of us, by the worst of them.
This kind of advice again. You know this type of stuff gets people hurt, right? He just needs to sort out his business and move on. That is such a b!tch move to ruin careers because his woman can't keep her legs closed. If my woman cheats, how can I be mad at the guy? HE'S A GUY! He needs to check her!
Yes, they're both at fault, I know that's the sole argument, but who is MOST at fault here? Her. Deal with the consequences within the marriage, whatever that may entail for you now, but don't be a sour grape kinda guy, no one respects him.
All else equal the wife is most accountable.
That said, if this was me, the dude would not come out of this very well. Just sayin. Guys should know better. I am very sorry but you messed with the wrong guys wife. You play ... you takes your chances.
I think it sends the wrong message when people defend the OM and say it is all on the WW. I think how much scorched earth depends on the circumstances. If he is a predator who did this for another notch, he would be history and the world would have one less scumbag on it. So it depends.
If you do nothing to this guy you are his b!tch.
B!tches Aint Sh!t -- Dr. Dre ( I prefer Ben Folds version however )
I am so sorry you are going through this. Many of us are dealing with the same situation. I wish there was an easy way out of all the pain for you and all the rest of us living with this gut wrenching pain. Stay strong, be there for your kids, you will make it even though the tasks ahead feel so hard.
This kind of advice again. You know this type of stuff gets people hurt, right? He just needs to sort out his business and move on. That is such a b!tch move to ruin careers because his woman can't keep her legs closed. If my woman cheats, how can I be mad at the guy? HE'S A GUY! He needs to check her!
Yes, they're both at fault, I know that's the sole argument, but who is MOST at fault here? Her. Deal with the consequences within the marriage, whatever that may entail for you now, but don't be a sour grape kinda guy, no one respects him.
This is so nutless and metrosexual it makes me want to put a fist through the screen. I can't stand it when posters advise putting your tail between your legs and slinking off.
This is so nutless and metrosexual it makes me want to put a fist through the screen. I can't stand it when posters advise putting your tail between your legs and slinking off.
Yeah, he's gonna go tell on the guy to his boss, real f-ing tough. If he wants to show dominance, confront him face to face. Telling on him is going to do what? He "might" lose his job....oooooooooh, point made. And don't hit the screen, you might hurt yourself.
Like I said, I always hold the person in the relationship that cheats accountable, she might have been feeding that dude lies about her husband, doesn't make it right, but he may have been going to her rescue. His wife was the one on her back going to pound town. She took the vows, not the guy, she chose to invite him in. So yeah, go ahead, tell on him, I hope his boss laughs and says to check your woman and keep your personal business out of his office. If it didn't affect productivity, big deal. And believe me, that's what happens most times. Posted via Mobile Device
That said, if this was me, the dude would not come out of this very well. Just sayin. Guys should know better. I am very sorry but you messed with the wrong guys wife. You play ... you takes your chances.
I think it sends the wrong message when people defend the OM and say it is all on the WW. I think how much scorched earth depends on the circumstances. If he is a predator who did this for another notch, he would be history and the world would have one less scumbag on it. So it depends.
If you do nothing to this guy you are his b!tch.
B!tches Aint Sh!t -- Dr. Dre ( I prefer Ben Folds version however )
I agree with you to a degree. Yes, if you want to make a point to the other man, scare the **** out of him. Show him you're a mad man that will do harm for stepping into his family. But telling on him? They even teach 5 year olds not to tattle. If you're not going to do anything physically like he did to your wife in the sack, telling on him makes you that guy. No one is defending the OM, but you're going to blame someone else for a decision the person YOU chose to marry made, that seems like major deflection. Posted via Mobile Device
You are so wrong here. He has every right to do whatever he can legally to the other man. The gloves are off. This man stepped into his marriage without concern. This OM must never be tempted to be involved with her again. For this to be true, there must be as much consequences as possible. The OM is lucky that we live in a civilized society. In the past less civilized times (and in some countries even today) the penalty dealt for cheating with another persons spouse would be far worse.
You said legally, right? The OM can file for harassment. He did nothing to this man personally. So calling his job making claims that will affect his livleyhood, he has more grounds to file than you do. Your wife can't keep her lips closed, yeah, this guy is totally at fault. Posted via Mobile Device
You said legally, right? The OM can file for harassment. He did nothing to this man personally. So calling his job making claims that will affect his livleyhood, he has more grounds to file than you do. Your wife can't keep her lips closed, yeah, this guy is totally at fault. Posted via Mobile Device
As a general business observation, most companies take an extremely dim view on the sexual fraternization of their employees, more especially in circumstances such as yours. The mantra here is that the affair being perpetuated by two of that company's employees is not affording that company anything of an affirmative nature inasfar as its positive public image is concerned. The greatest fear here, in my opinion, would be that your wife and her OM might both get sacked by the company!
You said legally, right? The OM can file for harassment. He did nothing to this man personally. So calling his job making claims that will affect his livleyhood, he has more grounds to file than you do. Your wife can't keep her lips closed, yeah, this guy is totally at fault. Posted via Mobile Device
It couldn't be more personal. Om can be and sued for alienation of affection in some states and intentional infliction of emotional distress in all states. Except for your suggestion to take it up with the other man personally the rest of your logic is just pu$$y whipped.
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