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Old 02-16-2012, 09:40 PM   #46 (permalink)
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It couldn't be more personal. Om can be and sued for alienation of affection in some states and intentional infliction of emotional distress in all states. Except for your suggestion to take it up with the other man personally the rest of your logic is just pu$$y whipped.
You can't just say my argument is pu$$y whipped without explaining how so. So because you choose to hold the primarily accountable party accountable, you're pu$$y whipped? Uh, OK. From what I keep reading here, the person that cheats is at fault. Period. You don't know what she was telling this guy. When my lady messed with a guy that knew we were together, I didn't call his job, I made sure other things happened. Simple as that. He can go get another job, but guess what, you can't unscrew your wife by doing that. The only way to relieve the physical pain of your heart being torn to bits is to see that man experience physical pain, otherwise, some chump lost his job, big whoop
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Old 02-16-2012, 09:43 PM   #47 (permalink)
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You said legally, right? The OM can file for harassment. He did nothing to this man personally. So calling his job making claims that will affect his livleyhood, he has more grounds to file than you do. Your wife can't keep her lips closed, yeah, this guy is totally at fault.
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Telling the truth isn't harassment.

So, your advice to a BS that they should just assuredly sit back and take it?
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You can't just say my argument is pu$$y whipped without explaining how so. So because you choose to hold the primarily accountable party accountable, you're pu$$y whipped? Uh, OK. From what I keep reading here, the person that cheats is at fault. Period. You don't know what she was telling this guy. When my lady messed with a guy that knew we were together, I didn't call his job, I made sure other things happened. Simple as that. He can go get another job, but guess what, you can't unscrew your wife by doing that. The only way to relieve the physical pain of your heart being torn to bits is to see that man experience physical pain, otherwise, some chump lost his job, big whoop
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Actually the exposure makes the affair costly for all involved. It helps to make it unattached for both of them.
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Old 02-16-2012, 09:57 PM   #49 (permalink)
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Telling the truth isn't harassment.

So, your advice to a BS that they should just assuredly sit back and take it?
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You obviously did not read all my responses. They're quite interesting, as is everyone eelse's.
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Actually the exposure makes the affair costly for all involved. It helps to make it unattached for both of them.
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Bulls didn't cut Jordan after cheating. Lakers didn't cut Kobe after cheating. And if this guy is a performer, this company won't fire him. If he isn't, then they were going to anyway, and he movers on. So where does that remove the penis.his wife allowed to penetrate her?
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Old 02-16-2012, 10:02 PM   #51 (permalink)
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I work for one of the largest corporations in America, and have seen performers that had infidelity cases and they just get reassigned. Life goes on. Unless you go and pop him in the mouth, he wont learn a thing. And yes, there's ways to assault without getting caught.
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Bulls didn't cut Jordan after cheating. Lakers didn't cut Kobe after cheating. And if this guy is a performer, this company won't fire him. If he isn't, then they were going to anyway, and he movers on. So where does that remove the penis.his wife allowed to penetrate her?
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Maybe not these guys, but the chairman of hp got dumped as have a ton of regular folks. Why? Because its cheaper to dump a guy like that then pay for the alienation of affection, and hostile work environment suits.
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I know you don't think so now, but this is a good thing. You finally have the truth about what kind of "woman" you have been married to. You can finally be free.
I agree. As bad as it is, be glad you found out what kind of disloyal and ****ty ***** she is. Rather than worrying about the 10 years you've invested, which are gone anyway, think about the good women you'll be dating, and the fun you'll have after you finally off load her and she's someone else's problem. Use the information to get custody of the kids and make her pay you child support. Get a lawyer ASAP. I like your attitude about once thy cheat, they're gone. There are too many good women out there to put up with this crap. Dump her on loverboy and replace her with a newer model. This crap you hear about loving some woman that screwed over you is for losers. A couple of years from now she'll be a distant bad memory.

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Maybe not these guys, but the chairman of hp got dumped as have a ton of regular folks. Why? Because its cheaper to dump a guy like that then pay for the alienation of affection, and hostile work environment suits.
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If you're referring to the oil spill fiasco. Then yeah, that's a PR nightmare. Cheating and causing cataclismic global pollution are on 2 different levels I think. And the funny thing is, that guy didn't break the equipment or cause the leak directly, but MJ, Kobe, and all those guys did dip their stick. Now that's irony.
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I agree. As bad as it is, be glad you found out what kind of disloyal and ****ty ***** she is. Rather than worrying about the 10 years you've invested, which are gone anyway, think about the good women you'll be dating, and the fun you'll have after you finally off load her and she's someone else's problem. Use the information to get custody of the kids and make her pay you child support. Get a lawyer ASAP. I like your attitude about once thy cheat, they're gone. There are too many good women out there to put up with this crap. Dump her on loverboy and replace her with a newer model.
That's what I think, the sweetest revenge, let him keep her. Lol
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If you're referring to the oil spill fiasco. Then yeah, that's a PR nightmare. Cheating and causing cataclismic global pollution are on 2 different levels I think. And the funny thing is, that guy didn't break the equipment or cause the leak directly, but MJ, Kobe, and all those guys did dip their stick. Now that's irony.
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No I'm talking about the head of Hewitt Packard who got caught cheatng with a consultant.

You know, sports figures are not the real world right? The rest of us live in a world where is we violate company policy, we get fired.
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No I'm talking about the head of Hewitt Packard who got caught cheatng with a consultant.

You know, sports figures are not the real world right? The rest of us live in a world where is we violate company policy, we get fired.
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Actually Mark Hurd, CEO of HP at the time, got canned because he failed to report money he used on a female contractor who accused him of sexual harassment.
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No I'm talking about the head of Hewitt Packard who got caught cheatng with a consultant.

You know, sports figures are not the real world right? The rest of us live in a world where is we violate company policy, we get fired.
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Oh, my font setting on my phone made hp look like bp at a glance. Not real world? I think I get what you're trying to say, but these are the same people that everyday people pay their hard earned money to see. And are supposedly role models. So the bar should be set higher. This guy in question only affected the life of one poor guy. But I digress. I have never seen an explicit policy of no infidelity in a workplace, except for the military. And even there, where the standards are some of the highest, performers walk Scott free. Or maybe a slap on the wrist and don't do it again.
Oh, and one more thing. So people really believe the folks they work with had no clue? Really? Yeah, this guy is going nowhere.
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Actually Mark Hurd, CEO of HP at the time, got canned because he failed to report money he used on a female contractor who accused him of sexual harassment.
Thanks for clearing that up
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Oh, my font setting on my phone made hp look like bp at a glance. Not real world? I think I get what you're trying to say, but these are the same people that everyday people pay their hard earned money to see. And are supposedly role models. So the bar should be set higher. This guy in question only affected the life of one poor guy. But I digress. I have never seen an explicit policy of no infidelity in a workplace, except for the military. And even there, where the standards are some of the highest, performers walk Scott free. Or maybe a slap on the wrist and don't do it again.
Oh, and one more thing. So people really believe the folks they work with had no clue? Really? Yeah, this guy is going nowhere.
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I've worked several places where in company dating was a big no no, called out in the hr rules.

But that aside, what will catch them is if they used company money to travel for it, used company money to pay forthe hotel, or for dates.
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