you didn't want it, but you sure as hell had a fun ride cheating and such.
I guess we should assume the standard roles here.
I'll be the cheater and defend myself and you and all the other betrayed rake me over the coals.
Sorry- not interested.
I guess on Tv affairs are exciting, the cheater and some buxom woman (or ripped and passionate man) raptured in lust, tearing clothes off, etc..
Right. I was a lonely vulnerable guy who made a bad mistake. Sneaking around like a low life to be with someone isn't quite the fantasy it sounds like. I'm sure a lot of people just can't get enough, or love an ego stroke. A lot of people simply want a friend, companion, someone to be close to and I can assure you - at least for me - life would have been a lot easier if I could get that from my wife, the mother of my child, the one I have built a home and life with over nearly two decades.
There is no excuse, no justification, whatever - we are just two people ill equipped to communicate, empathize, and resolve our issues. I have admitted my faults, as has she. I've told her I'm willing to take full blame, certainly willing to here with strangers. Blame is irrelevant to me - resolution is my only focus now.
I feel sorry for the betrayed
I feel sorry for the cheaters
I feel certain neither are genuinely happy. It's sad all the way around.
It's hard to get past the blame. It's not about agreeing that someone is, or is not, at fault - it's just recognizing it's wasted energy that doesn't move anyone any closer to happiness.