Re: Confesions of a cheater
He says he couldn't hurt someone who loved him.
I don't think it's a matter of not BEING loved, sometimes I think it's an incapability of FEELING loved. It's different. His rational is based on an internal problem with being able to feel loved.
Doesn't excuse what he did, but in his reality, which is different from someone who can feel, it's justified because he didn't FEEL that his wife loved him, and because of this, he extended that to THINKING and then somehow, improbably, KNOWING, that his wife didn't love him, without considering any other possibilities, such as a problem with receiving love. That's really, really, really, really sad.
OP, I hope that some day you will be able to feel, or at least to understand that for you, it's easier to feel hurt than to feel cherished.