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Old 02-19-2012, 07:22 PM   #16 (permalink)
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As far as triggers go I'm up for any movie that shows AP get killed and distroyed. I know I'm wierd, but its just so fun to watch.

Thanks M- now I remember Gere wacks OM in the head and kills him then rolles him up in a carpet. Good times there
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I saw Unfaithful well before my wife's EA and thought it a really compelling movie. If I saw that for the first time after her EA I would have walked out of the theatre and right into a straight-jacket.

Wife heard Descendants was good - she casually mentioned wanting to see it but then we saw a commercial where the infidelity was revealed and she hasn't suggested it since.
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Old 02-19-2012, 07:50 PM   #18 (permalink)
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Thanks M- now I remember Gere wacks OM in the head and kills him then rolles him up in a carpet. Good times there
I was watching the fight scene between Adrian Veidt and Edward Blake from the movie 'Watchmen' when I received a call informing me that my ex-wife's OM had been murdered.
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Old 02-19-2012, 08:25 PM   #19 (permalink)
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"Presumed Innocent" by Scott Turow.

(SPOILER IF YOU HAVEN'T READ / SEEN IT. . . )

Harrison Ford's wife killed the mistress in movie; this isn't the one with the plane crash.


I like the way the affair in "The World According to Garp" by John Irving comes to an end if you can ignore what happens to the kids,

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Wor..._to_Garp_(film)
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Wasn't Harrison Ford in the one were he kills the OM and him and his wife stay together and she helps him out when the cops question him.
The Harrison Ford movie was called "Presumed Innocent". In this movie, Harrison Ford's affair partner (AP) was murdered. Harrison Ford, working for the district attorney's office, is the first one to notice that there is evidence framing him for the murder that he did not commit. He must solve the case without letting anyone know about the affair.

SPOILER ALERT!! In the end we learn it is his wife that killed the AP and Ford covers it up for her. The confrontation with the wife is chilling.

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Old 02-20-2012, 08:37 AM   #21 (permalink)
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Is it a clear message that infidelity should be kept secret?
Thor, I often write terse replies that can be confusing.
I do not condone infidelity, nor the message it should
be kept secret.
The movie did show the spectacular failure of secrecy. While the husband was clueless, the daughter found out.
So the method or plan of "take it to your grave" was mocked
as failing. When the affair got known, the usual pain occurred
to the husband and OMW, but could not be resolved.
I do wonder at the often (mis) quoted statistics that a large
percentage of affairs go undetected. That is depressing.
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One more thing - thanks to the OP who helped me finally get over
the big three-oh post count...
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Of course when your wife's in a coma you have the freedom to track down the other man in any way you see fit w/o any worry of the consequences. Which is probably the subtext here - the Clooney character would never go that if his wife was walking around being a skank harpy.
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Maybe it was wrong that I posted this here, as obviously the hurt, pain and triggers cut deep.

Academy Award nominations for all the major categories, 89% positive rating on Rotten Tomatoes and an 8.1 rating. But here it is panned and people very upset at the portrayal of an affair and how it played out.

Surprised at the response here and sorry I posted, as obviously it hit a raw nerve with many.
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Old 02-20-2012, 10:19 AM   #25 (permalink)
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Yes, each person brings his/her experiences to movies and songs, and if you have lived through infidelity your reaction will be very different than if you can watch this movie without personal baggage.

I thought the infidelity was being used as a metaphor for how George Clooney's character missed what is important in life. He buried himself in work, and did not pay attention to his wife and daughters. He also had to decide whether or not to sell out to development interests. Should he keep ancestral, beautiful land, or give in to greed?

I would have liked to see more of his relationship with his wife before her accident. I think we are supposed to assume that Clooney neglected her, but there is also the suggestion that she wanted excitement and did not have proper boundaries.

I also had trouble with the bratty kids, but I took this to mean that Clooney was not a good father to them.

I agree that the movie does not spell things out for the audience, and it can have several different interpretations.
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Just curious as to people's reaction to the movie and how the Affair was handled.
You know with the anger the daughter felt towards the mother for what she did to her father, she wouldn't have hid it forever.

The so-called "friends" of Clooney's that hid the affair from them I would have disowned. Not really because they hid the affair(maybe a little), but because of their attitude, from what I remember, towards him as if they thought he should have been a little more gracious and the friend, the wife, was appalled when he had just a little less than exemplary words about her.


I, however, would not have handled the wife's care and funeral arrangements as Clooney's character would have. I'd have told her parents what happened in a respectful way and tell them that they need to make the arrangements for their daughter.
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Watched Unfaithful the other day....Was depressed for 2 days .. But Diana Lane looked really good
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Nah that was Richard Gere who was the betrayed husband in Unfaithful. Diane Lane was the unfaithful wife.
Yes, that movie I didn't like at all. I wanted to scream at Diane Lane through the TV LOL

And his comment towards the end. "I didn't want to kill him I wanted to kill you!" sort of rang true. NO, not that I would want to kill anyone and I'm sure if Richard Gere's character were real life(with the exception of a psycho which his character was not) that he didn't really mean he wanted to kill her. Its more of a signal of who he really was more angry with.
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Maybe it was wrong that I posted this here, as obviously the hurt, pain and triggers cut deep.
You posted it because you like getting a rise out of people.

If you want people to agree with your enjoyment of the movie, go to Roger Ebert's blog. He promotes movies about sexual deviancy and adultery.
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Unfaithful was a good example of a woman with poor boundaries. She had a wonderful marriage with a loving husband, and she still chose to selfishly cheat because that French guy was so hot.
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