02-24-2012, 02:10 PM
Join Date: Jul 2011
| | Re: Coolidge Effect/Allowing a Mistress
Originally Posted by Badblood
I completely disagree with those that say humans aren't hard-wired to pair bond. If monogamy wasn't a positive survival characteristic, it would never have been invented or become the main type of human relationship that it is. Humans aren't apes or herd animals. We separated from the actions of our primate relatives many 100,000' s of years ago. Human pair-bonding predates religion, so it stands to reason that there are very good reasons for it. Infant care, genetic diversity, to name a couple. The proof of the efficiency of human pair-bonding is that we are the most diverse and most numerous single species of mammal on earth.
Statistics suggest otherwise, unfortunately. Nothing to confirm, but it's thought that the infidelity rate is more realistically around 80%, where [at least] one of two in a marriage will step out.
I think it's only our intelligence that keeps us from stepping out. Do you wander why a pretty woman or cute guy that walks by brings on a euphoric feeling? That is one's crotch alerting the brain that it should be go time.