So how can I get on the right path? The therapist is useless basically. She has not and doesn't really address what seems to be constant lying in the relationship.
Any advise? Besides getting a new therapist.
Just some random thoughts...
First of all it takes 2. Your obviously willing, is she willing in more than just concept? As of now, I don't think so.
Kind of a broad observation...But... She doesn't "get it" or worse, she does and you don't have her "buy in" to build the kind of marriage you envision.
I can't speak intelligently about your whole situation as Im not intimately familiar with it... So outlining a roadmap would be tough..
Something that popped in my head...
Kind of a question for you to contemplate.. Envision your marriage as a structure, a home... Do think you guys are trying to rebuild a marriage on an existing foundation?, (one that you know had big cracks) or do you think you and your wife 'broke new ground' and this reconcilation is being built together from the ground up. a 'fresh start' if you will ?
One of those two will work, with hard work one of them will give you both a safe place to call home for the rest of your lives.. The other will also be hard work, and it will give you both "a place to stay" maybe for a long while... who knows? but it will always be a little dangerous and no doubt someday it will crumble and need to be condemned....