My husband has had three affairs in our marriage and he doesn't seem the least bit sorry for it. The affairs are with women that are far less attractive. He begged me constantly to have sex with my 'so-called' best friend. I kept telling him no, but he continued asking. Finally I told him that hes going to do what he wanted anyway. Then he ends up sleeping with her, in our bed..... I came home from work and saw them together, I was crushed. Also, my husband quit showering and wears dirty clothes all the time, because he refuses to let me do his laundry. (He never washes clothes) I cannot see how hes having one-night stand affairs when he smells that awful. Im in a depression because of this and its caused me to become anorexic. I only weighed 145 when he started cheating.. and hes been sleeping with women well over 300 lbs. Is there something im missing? Also, he makes sexual comments at my gay male friends and tries to sleep with them. I cannot trust him anymore at all. He lies about everything, even paying the bills. I just some kind of advice here. Posted via Mobile Device
I am trying to make it work with him, I honestly am. I just cannot get him to want to care about himself enough to want to. Posted via Mobile Device
I think you have it backwards. You can't get him to care enough about you to make it work.
No relationship will ever work with only one person trying. It's like a boat with only one person rowing. All you do is go around in the same circle.
He's unashamedly cheating on you. In your own bed. Clearly only for the sake of cheating. He's trying to get you into threesomes with your friend against your inclinations. And now he's trying to hook up with other men. And he's lying about money as well--probably because he's paying for sex somewhere.
You aren't ever going to "make this work". You can only either decide that what you have, right now, at this moment, is good enough for the rest of your life or else you decide you deserve better than this.
Which you do.
Whatever you decide, I'd just make DARN SKIPPY SURE that any sex was completely, utterly safe. Like 2 or 3 condoms. If he's switch hitting, that makes the chances of an STD even higher than they already seem to be.