Re: What evil, evil thing did you do that drove them to cheat?
I have a job that requires me to work long, stressful hours. When I'm home, a lot of the time I'm somewhat remote while I'm trying to wind down. I know that was my contribution; but my W has never blamed me, at least not to my face. As Morituri has previously pointed out, it's about fragile egos, the need for external validation. Sometimes the BS is simply unable or unwilling to provide that validation at the time that it's needed.
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All I got was her saying "I didn't mean for this to happen" You know, then some of the "I've felt alone in this marriage but I was happy at the same time so I never told you."
And of course, my favorite "We were just two people who wanted out of our marriages."
BS, I gave her the world and was a model father and husband. She has me in total despair while she does her thing. I cannot wait to get over this.
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I am boring. He was unhappy and bored with our seemingly perfect life. Also, he is a selfish, selfish person.
I refuse to take blame for anything that caused his EA. I am not faultless for their being minor problems in our marriage, but I am not to blame for anything that would cause him to break our vows.
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One of the first things my wife said after I caught her out was that she had been lonely.
She never said it again during the stories-and-excuses time that followed, but I think she was stunned at her own dumbness in letting herself get caught like she did and for once, couldn't tell anything but the truth.
It was hard for me to credit because in my eyes, we spent a lot of close-time together. But then I realized that it wasn't the quality of the time, it was that for her, I wasn't the right person to spend it with.
All waste-water now. She's now got plenty of time and opportunity to be as not-lonely as she likes.
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I had a low sex drive while I was pregnant with and nursing his two babies! I admit this is true, sex was only fortnightly but he didn't meet his ow until 8 mo after my normally high drive came back and we were dtd 3+ times a week. Now he says he though I was cheating while my drive was low... Funny he never mentioned it until after he cheated Posted via Mobile Device
You can do that?? I had an epiphany one day and made a formal request of my wife to please put the seat UP when she was finished. I gave myself an "A" for the effort. Posted via Mobile Device
Re: What evil, evil thing did you do that drove them to cheat?
i worked so she could be a stay at home mom,i let her put her bff before me,i was at home with her and the kids if i wasnt working,her father is an alcoholic who lived in the bars.so i stayed out of them except if we went together,i bailed out credit cards,left her go out with friends when she wanted,would take it when she yelled at me for reasons im not sure of.treated her much better than any of the husbands of her friends treated their wives...i guess i deserved it for being depressed for a year.i dont know how she put up with me
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I was too good for her and she kind'a wanted to let me free. Having a one night stand to accomplish that shows the depth of intelligence on her part. That was the first time she cheated.
Second time; She said it wasn't about sex and she felt like I was already gave up on her.
My opinion on second time was, by looking her affair partner and her inclination to rough sex and some other clues after the affair, she was looking for a well built, well hung fella to rock her body.
She got that but I still can't figure out why she left him and came back to me.
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Second time; She said it wasn't about sex and she felt like I was already gave up on her.
My opinion on second time was, by looking her affair partner and her inclination to rough sex and some other clues after the affair, she was looking for a well built, well hung fella to rock her body.
i got the same bs line and i got the same feeling about her second ?man
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Second time; She said it wasn't about sex and she felt like I was already gave up on her.
My opinion on second time was, by looking her affair partner and her inclination to rough sex and some other clues after the affair, she was looking for a well built, well hung fella to rock her body.
i got the same bs line and i got the same feeling about her second ?man
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Second time; She said it wasn't about sex and she felt like I was already gave up on her.
My opinion on second time was, by looking her affair partner and her inclination to rough sex and some other clues after the affair, she was looking for a well built, well hung fella to rock her body.
i got the same bs line and i got the same feeling about her second ?man
And all of here affair partners' penises (penii, penes) had the same size, shape and look as mine.
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I had an epiphany one day and made a formal request of my wife to please put the seat UP when she was finished. I gave myself an "A" for the effort.
