Originally Posted by Homemaker_Numero_Uno View Post
A letter informing her that if she continues you will get a restraining order. Send a copy of the letter to your attorney, make sure you have it notarized and require delivery confirmation with signature. Then if she continues to try to initiate contact, you can get a restraining order showing that she is not honoring your request. That's known as harassment. She can explain to her family and whomever (employer, etc.) why she has to go to court or why police came to her job to give her a notice, who cares? She didn't! But it's best to give warning first, so that you have proof she's harassing you. This preserves your honor, and perhaps your peace of mind. And literal peace.
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This is exactly correct. First, document what you have sent (either your hubby or you two as a couple) asking her to end contact. Send an email? Print it. A letter? Copy it. The point of this is to show some proof that you asked her nicely to stop.
Second, document what you have done in an attempt to end contact, such as changing phone numbers, changing busines and personal email addresses, blocking phone numbers, blocking email addresses, etc. The point of this is to show you have taken concrete steps to AVOID contact.
Third, document her attempts to contact up to this point. If possible PRINT her emails, texts, whatever. Write on the printout the lengths she went to in order to break No Contact (such as "Since her business and personal email is blocked, she used a male co-workers email to try to contact."). The point of this is to show how she attempts to circumvent your request and your clear actions to no longer have contact.
THEN...follow what Homemaker said. Write a letter that firmly demands NO CONTACT. Have the letter notarized. Send the original to her via Certified, Return Receipt and one copy to your attorney and one copy you keep. Keep either the postcard indicating she signed for it...or indicating she refused it (this is to prove that you attempted to legally make a demand).
At that point if she makes any attempt to contact again, do not warn her or yell or threaten or anything. Just go straight to the attorney or the courthouse and file for a restraining order. You have plenty of evidence already really. After that is put in place, if she tries again, she goes to JAIL!!!