Re: For BS's..getting over "it"...
My husband just said to me yesterday that he looks forward to getting past this. Well, I do too, but his idea of getting past and mine - I wonder how different they are. I thought, "do you mean you look forward to when I don't bug you about it or ask questions or flip out watching TV shows like the Closer where there is adultery involved?" But I didn't say that.
Things *feel* good, he seems remorseful, but then, he lied to me. I don't know what to do with that. I am aware every day that I trusted him, too, while he was lying, and that no matter how good things feel, no matter how sweet he is or seemingly willing to comply with my requests, that is still a fact.
That's why I put away some money for myself, and told him that it was insurance, in case I needed to leave or file. So he knows that there will be consequences if he chooses to see her again.