In the words of the great Ronald Reagan "TRUST BUT VERIFY!"
I had a client that his WW set up a misdirect. Her BS thought he was monitoring her FB and E-mail which did, with much drama, the AP fishing for the WW, communicating affection with strong rebukes by the WW, multiple NC demands the whole 9 yards. My client learned via a key logger that...they were very much in daily contact via "other" FB and e-mail accounts AND that she had a pre-paid cell phone and it's number, kept at work.
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If your not a troll, you're a cuckold. Either way you don't deserve the advice you are getting. It is only dredging up the emasculating that the men on here suffered because of their own WWs. You may ask for advice, but since you don't listen to it, it is a waste of time, to those here trying to help people who are actually willing to make an effort to improve their lot.
He can't do something simple like changing all their phone numbers, deleting the facebook account? And no, he refuses to install any keyloggers or get any VARs. He's typical of the minority of BSs that come here wanting advice, but get defensive when they get the advice that they don't want to hear.
There's only one way that you can remove this guy, and that will land you in prison. Your wife is the one who has to remove him. Until she does that, you will be forever in this purgatory. I suggest you do some reading on codependent relationships. Please take better care of yourself.
Try his name and number on spokeo.com. Make up a fictitious attractive girls facebook page with pictures and request him to be your friend. Someone did this to their boyfriend/husband (?), led them on to show they would pretty much cheat with anyone. You could get all his facebook info that way.
If she were out of her fog by now she would be either coming back to you or telling you she is still unhappy in the marriage and wants out. The fact that she is still insisting that she loves the OM means they are still communicating. You say that we don't know every situation. I say the situation does not matter. These things follow a predictable pattern. Its based on human behavior so unless you are going to tell us your wife isn't human then you are just refusing to acknowledge that the advice you have and are receiving is correct. Whatever, its your marriage......and your divorce.
I've been bending to her tune yes. It's called being a p*ssy. I'm going to give her time to get thru withdrawal. I need positive signs by end march or D goes ahead. Any sign of om contact in that time gives immediate filing. Any big bust ups that I can't stay silent to result in filing. I may just file anyway. This torture is bad for my health. I listened to a few stories today of ppl going or who have gone thru similar. They were in pieces except the scum who ruined 2 families to be with his childhood sweetheart just like om and my wife.
She carried the affir on 3 months after DD nd only stopped because of stress?
It sounds like she is angry at you for ending her happy life as a cheater,. She certainly doesn't seem to have any guilt or remorse. Sorry to say it, but unless she has remorse the marriage will not be ble to be rebuilt.See remorse is her admitting she was wrong and her desiring that she had never done it. [/i][/size]
I had a similar reconcilliation with my stbxw and yes no remorse means an end to the marriage for sure
Thanks for the abuse. They were in contact. I did have a keylogger. Her phone now has a callblocker. I have discovered where he lives and he is now feeling the consequences of his actions. My wife has spyphone on her mobile but I know he will not want her in touch. All comm channels are shut. Any I've missed? Fb is blocked and monitored.