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chapparal

Please expound. In case they use a burner phone or have a use someone elses phone you should have a VAR in her car. You may also learn something if they are using someone else to relay messages.

Initfortheduration

It wasn't abuse. It was called a 2x4, to try to wake you up. Grow up and get the chip off your shoulder, and realize those here are trying to help you. They were right, you were wrong. Its cool, give her another six months, maybe she change and suddenly become attracted to your beta charachteristics.

get-thru-this

Ok. All surveillance up except var. no opportunity to purchase yet...have exposed he lied to my wife about living in a 4 bed house when actually 2 bed so must share bed with his partner. His director claim is also a lie as is his partner selling the house as they don't own it. My wife feels the fool and has challenged him so I see it. His email was blocked from replying so I unblocked it, in spirt of honesty and fairness. He took two days to reply about his heart being broken - bollocks. I've let him know I know who he is and where he lives but he doesn't back off. My wife's friends tell her she deserves better than him but hang on.....what about me?
I want to inform his partner by sending her a letter. He has posed as her to get through the block my wife put on his Facebook. She is still not seeing that I am supporting her. Do I dump her and file for divorce till and if she ever sees that she has lost me....hurts as lose access to my son but I feel like such a mug putting up with this ****.
Part of me wants to play tough and other half wants to support her through it. Which is better route to speedy resolution?
Planning to purchase var when back home as currently travelling with work for further week.
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ilgitano

It's time for you to put on your pants. I've read through your thread and noticed that from the getgo people have told you to act tough. There's a reason for that... it brings the situation to a threshold. But you replied with "threats don't help"... yes they do.

The last thing you want to do is to support her through this. This will appear weak in her eyes and if you would manage to solve this siituation via such a method, it would make easy for to do again in the future. Act tough as well decisive and do practice the 180.

OldWolf57

everyone told you to find his partner an xpose the A. Then you threatend to file if contact resume. You find out they was STILL IN CONTACT. Have you filed ?? NOOOOOOOOOOOOO you want to support her thru this. FILE THE D**M PAPERS and act like a man. They followed the script like you was told. NOW YOU have lost even more manhood for not filing in her eyes, and sooner or later she will leave you for a real man.

iheartlife

But not foolish enough to cut off contact, evidently. This shows how infatuated she is with him, and she won't end contact on her own.

What spirit of honesty and fairness? The one that THEY have NEVER used and NEVER will? This no time for the high road. Your chance to play hardball and avoid losing her is pretty much gone.

He's got your number. He knows you aren't ever going to punch him (metaphorically) where it hurts. He is always laughing at you. He is not afraid, because he knows you too well.

If they aren't saying dump him because cheating is EVIL, then they are toxic friends and will likely have to exit her life too before she will exit the affair.


Pardon my French, but what are you waiting for--an engraved invitation? Expose immediately and without warning. Print off the facebook stuff as proof.

Actually, she appreciates your support very much...the support for her AFFAIR. I don't even understand this sentence. She treats you like dirt on her shoes--she barely acknowledges your existence.

READ THIS AGAIN. YOU typed it. This is your true self saying: SELF, get the **** away from anyone, even if I am married to them, who stabs me in the back and twists the knife and laughs in my face all at the same time.


Can I tell you something--with complete honesty? The use of the word support in this sentence is tragic, disgusting, repulsive, horrific, and a lot of other adjectives that are unprintable. You know WHO is harmed by this way of thinking? Your SON, that is who. How did you get to a point in your life where you thought it was ok to support someone as they wound you and set this most horrible example to your child on how to behave as a wife?

As for the speedy resolution--you already know the answer. But you'd rather "support her" affair than face it. It is:

1. Go to a lawyer. Have divorce papers drawn up. Do not tell her you are doing this, AGAIN, unless you prefer to "support her" affair.

2. Gather all evidence of contact between them. Be sure and include the facebook pages. DO NOT warn her in advance, unless you want to "support her" affair, which you seem to prefer, from what you've said.

3. EXPOSE to his partner, his parents, her family and friends, and anyone else who will help put a stop to the affair. Unless "supporting her" affair is the direction you'd like to go.

4. IMMEDIATELY give her the divorce papers and say, it's me or him, and you have 5 minutes to decide or you have to move out.

OldWolf57

NO, what he should do is have her SERVED. She already have his number, so she will endrun him face to face if he gives her the papers... WAIT, is anyone besides me getting to feel this may just be a TROLL. having fun. COME ON, what man would be such a,,, well you get the picture, his wife if real, got more B**ls than him. I still laugh at her " give him a step family "

get-thru-this

And still it goes on. Think I had my 5th D-day last night. Frog boiling. Lovely. Oh not a troll. Just someone struggling to hold his remnants of a family together. Alone and seriously bitter now. Affairs are carried out by ignorant scum. I like sharia law. Very appealing. come on guys. paste my ego with ur responses.

happyman64

GTT,

Here is a copy of a previous post from iheartlife.

Take this advice and move forward otherwise your wife is going to keep wiping her feet on your back.

What the heck are you waiting for?

HM64

get-thru-this

Done that. She chose me. Then he got in touch again and I found out she replied with spy software. Now she wants to try again under the same threat. I moved out last night and back in today after promises to change phone number.

Machiavelli

Does your wife on the house or is it in your name? I'm just trying to figure out why you were the one who moved out?

snap

If you drawn a line in the sand and she overstepped it, you have to follow up with the consequences as promised.

(Yes, I know you won't. She knows that, too.)

Eli-Zor

Waywards will yo yo back and forth the pull is intoxicating for them, make the OM's life hell.

You say you have done all the items below???


What I suggest you do is ramp up the pain level, you can place a photo or the OM on cheatersville or do something like this poster did:

Inevitable Divorce? Plan B Advice - Marriage BuildersŪ Forums

so long as you keep to the facts and tell the truth there is no legal recourse against you

Eli-Zor

Agree

Threats are useless , what is required is consistent unwavering action.

The affair has to be painful , traumatic and emotionally draining for her and the OM to maintain. The single biggest tool you have is that they do not know what you will do next. You can sit idle and hope or you can shatter their world.