She bought me flowers for valentines day. She arranged "Us" time in our new home without kids around. We just have a couch there and she bought candless too. I feel gay writing this, receiving flowers was weird.
You feel gay about recieving flowers, yet in the past you have all but allowed your wife to have sex with other men.
Problem is, you have endured it for so long she has probably changed you for the worse. It is going to be hard for you to have any kind of meaningful relationship in the future due to the damage she has done to you.
Divorce her and quit using the kids as an excuse. This farce of a marriage your in is not a healthy environment for them to grow up in.
I am looking around and I see people who were able to manage to stay together just for kids. Kids grew up to be fine individuals. Examples I see stops me going forward with separation.
Norm here is different than the norm in US. We don't have many single parents here as there are in US. Albeit we have more disfunctional families. Societes have different norms and I want to keep my kids as closer as to the norm here. Whch is just keep your mouth shut and raise your kids for their sake.
First, I need to understand what is wrong with me.
I am wrong.
EDIT : I never let her to have sex with other man. I let it happen unknowingly after she lied to me. I was stupid.
"I let her have sex with the OM without realising.
My wife started having sex with her coworker on a saturday night. Came back home around sunday noon and told me that she had sex with him. I was crushed and made her know that this was not acceptable, stupid and very very bad.
She went to work monday, she was going to tell the OM that what they did was not appropriate and needed to end. They had their talk at dinner in a place close to work. She called me from that place close to midnight and said, "I had a few too many drinks, I cannot come home, can I stay at his place" I didn't like it but I said YES.
I thought they were done. I didn't want to be too nosy, interfering. Most importantly, I believed her when she said they were done and she was going there to just sleep, alone.
"I let her have sex with the OM without realising.
My wife started having sex with her coworker on a saturday night. Came back home around sunday noon and told me that she had sex with him. I was crushed and made her know that this was not acceptable, stupid and very very bad.
She went to work monday, she was going to tell the OM that what they did was not appropriate and needed to end. They had their talk at dinner in a place close to work. She called me from that place close to midnight and said, "I had a few too many drinks, I cannot come home, can I stay at his place" I didn't like it but I said YES.
I thought they were done. I didn't want to be too nosy, interfering. Most importantly, I believed her when she said they were done and she was going there to just sleep, alone.
Later I learned that they had sex that night.
How gullible I was."
I let it happen unknowingly, call me stupid. I was much younger.
It was such an affair down for her. She was good looking with the curves on right places. Bastard was overweigth, with skin problems and bad teeth. Even his boots were sorry for him for his flat feet, and weight. You could see that when he was walking towards you, swinging side to side.
A week before my wife F***ed him, we introduced the OM to one of our female friends, without any objection from my wife. She (the friend of ours) was just dumped by her boyfriend. She needed to cheer up quick. She was a fine girl, comparable to my wife, with my wife with more attractive looks, and girlfriend being more easygoing, comforting. She deserved much better but bastard was all we had, available at the time. After meeting him, she said "come on guys, I am not that desperate". Our female friend had never considered to met him again.
I took the other man as a joke at first.
At first I thougth my disturbed girl did something without much consideration about anything again. She said initially that what they did was not that important. I almost felt sorry for the bastard for involving with her.
About for their first sex she said "it felt wright", I learned what it means much later. I was stupid, still I am.
Are you guys celebrities or have a very public life?
No, I am paranoid for the most part.
My wife is one of the few pioneer women in her field in our country she is well known in her industrie. If I give just couple of leads, it would be easy to track her. Her peers are very computer and internet literate. All use google brutally. And I am sure some of them has been in TAM for their own problems.
Besides with year 2020 version of google our kids will know everything about our internet presence without much effort. I am trying to extend it to year 2030.
I am kidding and serious at the same time. (I am not much fan of smilies).
I had put a hold-on talking about our problems for a while until we are more able to do it because I was drinking heavily, I kicked her out to call her and the kids next day (kids shouldn't have had that), and my wife was having health problems, she had to hospitalized for a serious UT infection for a week.
Time has come. We sat to talk last weekend days after we put the kids to sleep.
Friday night, she revealed, there was one more guy that I didn't know after I presurred her saying that "It is obvious, why are you still denying", I was just fishing and I had a catch.
Saturday comes, after more pressure she spells one more guy.
Monday night, without much pressure, she came out with two more.
She had six guys that she f***ed as it stands now. All from about seventeen to fifteen years ago, But I am learning about them now. Talk about D-day starts when you learn it, not when it happend.
There is not much left to say for me, to me.
Only good may come out from this may be the others may find some lessons from my story.
Leave it, don't live in a lie, only bad comes out of it, later kids are added to it, they hurt and they are crippled for life too. Leave especially you are in the early years of your relationship.
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