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Old 04-30-2012, 10:56 AM   #211 (permalink)
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Honestly you seem to be only the second guy she has ever said no too. That alone frankly would have me showing her divorce papers. Not because of the sex, but because of the rejection and humiliating slap in the face that comes with it.

I think your conflict and pain is bring enhanced because you know that divorcing her is what is right for you and wht she deserves. I don't think she stopped cheating 13 years ago and I don't think the aborted kid was yours. Sorry, but I just don't.

If she really wants to oe clean then have the polygraph,
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Old 04-30-2012, 08:41 PM   #212 (permalink)
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Hey, whats up? I just wanted to let you know that story is not so unique, and I'm not going give you any advice or perspective. Just that the only difference between the two of us is your deal happend in the begaining where as mine happen later in the marriage.

Two years ago I finally confronted my fWW with her 20th OM and it only took 13yrs to get there.

again alot of simularities with your story and we both have a lot of sh!t to sort out.

Its not what knocks us down that matters, its how we get back up that counts. Don't ever forget this!

Now, my favorite and only montra is " I diserve good things"

Good luck brother, I doubt I'll be back to this thread, its to damb long, just like my sorry@ss 20 yr marriage was.
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Old 04-30-2012, 08:49 PM   #213 (permalink)
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Shaggy brings up a really good point. Ask her why only you and one other man were not good enough for her to have sex with. I also agree that would be enough reason to divorce her. She gives it to everyone but you.

If she won't have sex with you, she doesn't consider you her husband. Ask her what she considers you to be. Sounds like she considers you to be a servant.
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Old 09-19-2012, 02:11 PM   #214 (permalink)
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We need updates. Here is my update for now.

It is late. I am seperated from my kids, our home, my best friend and my love, tonight. Iam drunk and drugged myself so that I'd be in half comma soon. I wish I won't wake up again. But I know and I make sure that It won't happen. I'll be up tomorrow, early I'll pick my kids from my wifes home, take the older one to school, and life will go on. Hell I am so ready to go to tibet and loose myself in a cave.
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Old 09-19-2012, 03:14 PM   #215 (permalink)
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Please do not abuse yourself with drink and drugs. Your kids need you. She is the one who has cheated and betrayed not you. Get back in your home. File for D, but you don't leave and you take cared yourself.
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Old 09-19-2012, 03:41 PM   #216 (permalink)
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Stop the pity party. As much pain as you are in, being a drunk does not solve anything
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Old 12-24-2012, 11:18 AM   #217 (permalink)
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Update,

Wife and I are divorcing. We both have our lawyers working on it.

Anyways, we put the christmas tree up a little late, last night. Wife two kids and I were putting on the ornaments, my 5 year old singing all the christmas songs he know, and I was putting aside everything and I was trying to find a little cozyness during one of our last times as a family together. Mostly for my kids.

Tree was done, kids and I were watching the lights, ornaments and talking about santa and his magic. Wife started to show her concern about me staying the night in OUR home. It is legally my home and that's where I am supposed to sleep, still.

I first said her "please, this is for kids". Then I decided to leave, I tried to make it easy on my kids but my 5 year old boy wanted to come with me no matter what, Then I realised that wife did'nt want to deal with kids anyways and she was OK with me and kids are leaving, because she had her work in mind, she brought home and couln'dt deal with kids.

Kids and I could be sitting around the tree and then go to bed (wife has her own single bed) soon and wife could go to another room and do what ever she wants to do with her computer, but she said no. She wanted me out and since she could'nt take care of the kids they had to leave with me too.

At the end, we put up the tree, and kids and I had to leave home after that. Such a f*****up memory for my kids.

Marry christmas everybody,

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Old 12-24-2012, 12:31 PM   #218 (permalink)
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She wanted me out and since she could'nt take care of the kids they had to leave with me too.
At the end, we put up the tree, and kids and I had to leave home after that. Such a f*****up memory for my kids.
I'm very sorry man. You wife's behavior towards her own kids is despicable. This is what you wrote about her in the original post if this thread.
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She adores our kids. She values life so that she (would) put(s) her life on the line for others, animals' included. She menages to stay vegetarian despite of being a gourme meat lover inside. She supports charities for abondened, mistreated kids, donates and works for them, sometimes comes home crying for some of the kids she met and would adopt one, last year if I'd go for it (I think).
What are the terms of the divorce custody wise?

You will get better once as get away from this soul parasite. No doubt about it. Focus in getting healthier and healthier. How are you doing it with the booze?

Hang in there.
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Old 12-24-2012, 01:16 PM   #219 (permalink)
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S&S

Just enjoy Xmas with your kids.

Protect them and love them.

Because with a mom like that they will need you a lot more.

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Old 12-24-2012, 01:17 PM   #220 (permalink)
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Since the house is yours you should have grabbed her laptop, put it in her hand and told her to leave.

I know, more drama.

Take care of yourself.
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Old 12-24-2012, 01:53 PM   #221 (permalink)
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" She wanted me out and since she could'nt take care of the kids they had to leave with me too."


Huh? A women and her castle?
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Old 12-24-2012, 02:37 PM   #222 (permalink)
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Is she with someone else already ? Her behavior seems like it.
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Old 12-24-2012, 03:27 PM   #223 (permalink)
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Poor kids.
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Old 12-24-2012, 03:39 PM   #224 (permalink)
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This is the price of being a beta male. The longer you accept it, the worse it gets, and now shes abandoning the kids.

Really sad for them.

All this could have been avoided.
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Old 12-25-2012, 09:48 AM   #225 (permalink)
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I'm very sorry man. You wife's behavior towards her own kids is despicable. This is what you wrote about her in the original post if this thread.

What are the terms of the divorce custody wise?

You will get better once as get away from this soul parasite. No doubt about it. Focus in getting healthier and healthier. How are you doing it with the booze?

Hang in there.
Yes, until about a year ago, I used to believe that she was a decent person, to put it simply. I had'nt came here to bash her. When I read my first posts now that, I can see that I was living in a dream for years.

I am looking for a fifty/fifty shared custody, She wants the full custody of the kids. We both are not asking for anything financial from each other including alimony.

I started cutting down on booze after roller coster ride ended. I can sleep better without the help of booze and priscripton xanax. Still I am far from my regular three cans during the weekend days routine.

I am looking forward for better days. Still, I am worried for my poor kids.
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