Ok, let me get this straight. You had sex three times last year. Your wife is 41. And she gets pregnant. You do realize that a 41 year old woman does not conceive like a teenager right? The chances that she conceived with you are not good.
You told her you wanted the baby and she went and had the abortion anyway?
I hold to my original opinion and now I feel even stronger that she is having an affair, got pregnant and had the abortion to terminate the pregnancy. If she had given birth and you even slightly suspected an affair you could have ordered a DNA test and that would have put her in an extremely bad situation.
If in the very unlikely event you were the father you expressed your strong feelings and she decided to go ahead with the abortion anyway.
Most assuredly this would be a deal breaker for me. I would not be able to stay married to this woman.
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She probably gave him a little poon tang when she was late to cover her tracks. She solved her problem with the abortion by getting rid of the evidence. This guys hanging around hoping his loving wife will give a little more three of four months down the road if he behaves himself and keeps saying, "what else can I do for you my queen". The more of this stuff I read, the more I thank God he made me an alpha male.
Last year, we had sex only three times. All initiated by me when I am half awake so that I am mostly animal and she is totaly asleep so that her participation is not required at least at the beginning.
First session of the year was around last winter, we had a lousy sex and both orgasmed. I came inside of her, it was not around her ovulation time.
Second time, last september, lousy sex, she orgasmed, and then I pulled out and came on her back because it was close to her ovulation days.
Third time, around mid october, initiated by me half asleep, she suddenly turned and said "heck, I am probably pregnant, lets do it". Pretty good and wet sex. she had the multiplies and I was happy too.
Second time above counts for the cause of her last pregnancy. It is a little peculier that after 20 years of unprotected, altough seldom sex she becoms pregnant at our older age with a minute amount of my precome. Well dates correspondes fine. (I think)
Well your post proves that she isn't frigid and she can orgasm when you do have sex. I'm no sex therapist, but geez, it would seem that she does have a sex drive, she just doesn't want it with you.
Experience has show here that either the sex dries up, or it increases when the WW is having an affair. In some stories here, the WW can have sex with the OM and come straight home and have sex with the BH. So I tend to agree with 5stringpicker, that she probably had sex with you to cover her tracks. Everything about this seems to scream affair, but its hard to say for sure unless you have proof.
What other red flags have you seen so far? Any unsual computer/cell phone use? On the surface it may seem that she's been having LTAs, but you will have to do some further investigating.
It will depend on what you consider a deal breaker for you. You said you're a beta male. Are you a Stay At Home Dad (SAHD)?
Agree that it sounds questionable as to whether or not you were the father, but I'm not sure whether that matters now.
Either she cheated on you and aborted someone else's baby to cover her ass... or she aborted your baby without your express agreement.
Either way, it's all over isn't it?
You got it right Atholk,
At this point, I don't care if I was the father or an alien who beamed himself into our bedroom and screwed my wife with his big, blue, vibrating **** while I am kept unconcious by the anesthethics injected in my ass through aliens other ****.
And yes alot is over. It is impossible to make it "all over" with two very young kids.
She adores our kids. She values life so that she (would) put(s) her life on the line for others, animals' included. She menages to stay vegetarian despite of being a gourme meat lover inside. She supports charities for abondened, mistreated kids, donates and works for them, sometimes comes home crying for some of the kids she met and would adopt one, last year if I'd go for it (I think).
No wonder you were surprised.
Well, if R isn't a possiblity, then it's time to lawyer up. With you being the prime caregiver, there's a good chance that you can get full custody, child support, and alimony. But see a lawyer to check what your options really are.
At this point, I don't care if I was the father or an alien who beamed himself into our bedroom and screwed my wife with his big, blue, vibrating **** while I am kept unconcious by the anesthethics injected in my ass through aliens other ****.
And yes alot is over. It is impossible to make it "all over" with two very young kids.
Contrary to what you may believe your children will be getting a better father if you divorce and they don't grow up in a house full of resentment and anger. That type of environment is not healthy. Better for them to see you in a loving relationship with another woman as a good example of how life should be lived. It seems your wife checked out of the marriage a long time ago. I think it's time you did the same and put end this false relationship for good. It will be better all around.
Contrary to what you may believe your children will be getting a better father if you divorce and they don't grow up in a house full of resentment and anger. That type of environment is not healthy. Better for them to see you in a loving relationship with another woman as a good example of how life should be lived. It seems your wife checked out of the marriage a long time ago. I think it's time you did the same and put end this false relationship for good. It will be better all around.
I am cosidering divorce too. I am not at a point yet that I can decide where I take it from here.
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