Re: I'm Ready To Own What I've Done
You came here to ask us for accountability when you feel weak.
Here's the thing. You KNEW THIS WAS GOING TO HAPPEN
When you first answered the email, first made the first phone call, you knew you would end up in bed together, because you wanted that so badly. You didn't listen to your husband, so now you are in a huge pickle, aren't you?
Ing is right - if and when you tell your husband, he is going to die and look like the weakest POS in the world. This will tempt you even more to take on your lover again. Given he said NO, and you did it anyway, I would be SHOCKED if he could ever recover from this. If he decides to keep the marriage (I sure as heck wouldn't), he will constantly check up on you, need reassurance, and smother you. He won't trust you for months, maybe YEARS.
And you will eventually say he is "controlling" you by doing these things, which of course, is ridiculous. But you'll do it anyway.
If you come back (not sure you will) to this board, let us know if you plan on telling him. If you do, you'll likely lose him. If you don't, you'll lose your own soul. Kiss one of those things goodbye. Sure hope it was worth defying your husband's explicit wishes for a romp in the hay with your ex.