My wife and I found ourselves sharing an Olive Garden restaurant with the workday lunch time crowd. We were seated next to a nice couple who seemed to be very affectionate toward each other. My back was to the couple and I smiled a bit as I could hear them making weekend plans together. Then her cell phone goes off and I hear her say "ah sh*t, its my husband. Hi honey, yeah I'm just sitting at my desk eating a sandwich...." When we left I mentioned it to my wife and she said she already suspected since the woman was wearing engagement and wedding rings and the guy wasn't.
Second story.
Listening to two 12/13 year old girls talking.
Girl 1: My mom offered to pay me to be nice to her girlfriend. Thing is I hate her and I want to go live with my dad.
Girl 2: I live with my dad and he has to pay me to hang out with my mom since its part of the custody thingy. But I still hate the b!tch for walking out on us. Almost as much as I hate the d!ck she left my dad for. I get money but I don't have to be nice.
Girl 1: Maybe I'll try that too. I still can't believe my mom went lezzie...gross!
Was this always going on around me and I just never noticed before?
I think its the culture, sadly in a way, cheating is common and accepted, by damm it is even encouraged (in some form) with television shows and movies that are pushed at us in media
Well, I would hope that if I were out at dinner with my fWW that someone wouldn't think I was cheating because I don't wear my wedding ring. I don't wear it because for one, any metal on my skin gives me a rash. Heck I could even wear my dog tags when I was in the military and had to get the plastic protectors. And secondly, my ring size has changed if you know what I mean. I could probably squeeze it on, but then it would have to get cut off before I lose the finger.
But yeah, being hyperaware after being cheated on is normal. It's just like getting a new car, then suddenly noticing all the same model cars on the road.
Well, I would hope that if I were out at dinner with my fWW that someone wouldn't think I was cheating because I don't wear my wedding ring. I don't wear it because for one, any metal on my skin gives me a rash. Heck I could even wear my dog tags when I was in the military and had to get the plastic protectors. And secondly, my ring size has changed if you know what I mean. I could probably squeeze it on, but then it would have to get cut off before I lose the finger.
But yeah, being hyperaware after being cheated on is normal. It's just like getting a new car, then suddenly noticing all the same model cars on the road.
I didn't even notice the rings they were or were not wearing, my wife did. As the one that cheated it seems she's just as hyperaware as I am but she admitted she's still embarrassed about her behavior even 20 years later. That's why she didn't say anything until I mentioned it. But the conversation she was having on her cell phone left no doubts what was going on.
yes it is rampant, going through the betrayal forced me to swallow the red pill, now my eyes are opened and I see it all around me, not usually outright affairs, but all those things that lie along the path of infidelity.
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I see cheaters everywhere - Part 2 
