Will_Kane

"I am not informing her of anything."

"I have made it clear that if she doesn't go on a family trip that was planned months ago, I am filing. Same with her moving out."

You say that you are not informing her of anything, and then you state that you informed her of what you plan to do.

Jellybeans

You still don't get it. Why are you inviting her on a vacation when she is disrespecting you so badly? Youre threatening to divorce her if,she doesn't go? Really? She's already told you she's moving out. Let her go. Why are u trying to hold onto someone who is stabbing you with a knife? Ugh. You better wake up fast but i feel you wont. Sad.
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chapparal

Well thththats nit picky.

chapparal

I must be in the minority but what you have done just might work. Divorce will always be an option. But if you gave her conditions and she breaks them, file immediately. As a matter of fact you should already be making an appt with an atty.

thrway214

I have talked to atty, which he found out because atty came recommended by mutual friend.
Not going on vacation, which was already planned and is for the kids, with two other families, will e free license for her to meet OM, if A is still in.
Moving out to an apartment will be the same. At least this way, unexplained absences can remain an issue.
I agree, I am not readin ANYTHING into her words. Her actions are slowly starting to change.
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thrway214

So, apparently, OM threatened to "**** up my world" if I continue ****ing with him. I am still working on the package of logs and texts, but any suggestions at this point? Is there a reason to not send a physical copy, but offer to show her everything at a coffee shop? Legally speaking?

Wife brigs up the texts a lot now, says I am prolonging the pain, hurting OMW, etc. All this while I neither confirm or deny or say anything about anything. She is closer to remorse than any time in the past.
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chapparal

Who told you he was going to ++++ your world?

She's obviously still contacting him.

bandit.45

Yeah, your wife is his little spy.

Quit talking to that b*tch wife of yours. What the hell is the matter with you? Stop wasting time and get that packet to his wife any way you can.

jayman732819@gmail.com

how is this remorse? she's protecting him? what steps has she done for u?

bandit.45

Oh and ignore his threats. He's 64 dude. C'mon, really? If you can't take a 64 year old on you are a puss. Unless he's like some kind of martial arts expert.

warlock07

Ask your wife to shut up.

And the OM has already f*cked your world...No need to worry about that. Ask him to roll over and ...

inmygut

Are you for real? People on this site have given you great advice. You chose to ignore it. Good luck with the groveling strategy. Actions, not words. Don't tell your wife what you are going to do. Just do it.
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bandit.45

It has become clear to me that his wife is much, much smarter than he is.

She has outmaneuvered him at every turn.

Eli-Zor

The only way you would know what the OM is saying is if he is talking to your wife. If it is true what he is saying it shows he is more than a bit worried you are going to blow his world up. It also shows your wife is putting maximum pressure on you to not expose the deails of her F---buddies lies to his wife so she can carry on the affair.

Make sure you speak to his wife and agree two ways of sending the logs , electronically and a paper copy. She must confirm she has received them.

Why have you not sent the information already ? I think your looking for yet another excuse not to do this. How many days ago did we say send the info and where are we now, still on limbo, still procrastinating because of your fear to do what has to be done to save your mariage . Start acting like the head of the house and send the information .
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bandit.45

Procrastination is all it is.

He's scared.