03-07-2012, 06:33 PM
Join Date: Sep 2010
Location: Chicago 'burbs
| | Re: Told the OMW, update
Originally Posted by thrway214
A lot of you read snippets of posts, and start hectoring. Let me see if I can give you a good, clear update on where I stand.
- WW, clearly, not in remorse. Blame-shifting, rationalizing, minimizing, grandstanding, what not.
- The affair has stopped/paused. There is no contact per my monitoring. OM's threats helped turn her away.
- She still feels guilty that HER texts to OM, now in my hands, may lead to a lot of pain and suffering for OMW and OM. I have not told her anything about whether I have sent them or not. I fully intend to get the information to OMW, currently unsure about putting it in the mail vs. meeting F2F.
- 180, and constant pressure from me about the ridiculousness of her positions on marriage and her behavior are driving her crazy.
My insistence on her going on the trip and not moving out were designed to increase the pressure. I am not blackmailing her to do anything. I know I cannot force or coerce her into remorse. I can pressure-test her commitment to the family, however.
The U.S. put "constant pressure" on North Vietnam to act as a carrot and stick, in order to make them realize that further hostility was futile.
And now there is a black wall in Washington with 50,000 names on it.
And North Vietnam won the war.
"All of us get lost in the darkness...
...Dreamers learn to steer by the stars"