Originally Posted by thrway214

A lot of you read snippets of posts, and start hectoring. Let me see if I can give you a good, clear update on where I stand.

• WW, clearly, not in remorse. Blame-shifting, rationalizing, minimizing, grandstanding, what not.

• The affair has stopped/paused. There is no contact per my monitoring. OM's threats helped turn her away.

• She still feels guilty that HER texts to OM, now in my hands, may lead to a lot of pain and suffering for OMW and OM. I have not told her anything about whether I have sent them or not. I fully intend to get the information to OMW, currently unsure about putting it in the mail vs. meeting F2F.

• 180, and constant pressure from me about the ridiculousness of her positions on marriage and her behavior are driving her crazy.
  My insistence on her going on the trip and not moving out were designed to increase the pressure. I am not blackmailing her to do anything. I know I cannot force or coerce her into remorse. I can pressure-test her commitment to the family, however.

Originally Posted by F-102

And North Vietnam won the war.

Originally Posted by crossbar

Uggh...really?

Okay, inventory of progress...

1. keylogger installed- probably not
2. contacted higher ups in the church- probably not
3. VAR installed and placed- probably not
4. retrieved text files from the computer- probably not
5. exposed to the OMW- probably not
6. followed up on the police report to see if they questioned him- probably not.
7. demand that he gets transferred- probably not
8. ask your wife for a polygraph- probably not
9. DNA testing on the kids- probably not.

Just what EXACTLY are you doing? I'm about ready to give up.