The full package is going out this week. Two things have changed: my wife says she needs to move out of the house for a few days, and two, she said she didn't care if I sent the whole package, because she isn't friends with OM anymore.
I sometimes feel like the detoxing/defogging has begun, and my w is saying a few things in the right direction. But I continue to see a lot of blame shifting, rationalization etc. she is still not prepared for total transparency. She isn't putting kids first. It is still all about her.
50% chance of filing in two weeks. This chick still thinks I am not serious. Posted via Mobile Device
Who is the other man? You never did tell us why you thought he or your wife might be in danger.
I think the OW in previous affair is either family friend or there is a child involved. My W indicated that his sons, who are adults, are capable of harming him. I now think that is a ruse. Posted via Mobile Device
I think the OW in previous affair is either family friend or there is a child involved. My W indicated that his sons, who are adults, are capable of harming him. I now think that is a ruse. Posted via Mobile Device
Ignore what your wife is saying, her words are simply to try and control you. Anyway it is not your problem it will be his.
If your wife moves out file, don't agree to a seperation as that is a tactic for her to have the freedom to play. When you file don't say anything to her, her being served will be the start of reality. Posted via Mobile Device
If she moves out , change the locks and go dark. Make sure she is not using family monies , secure them in an account that she cannot raid. If your paying for her phone cut it off. Moving out is a prelude to seperation and divorce , let her feel the reality of single divorced life. Posted via Mobile Device
Let her move out. Do not at all beg her to stay. Why are you still informing her of the package and of exposing the affairs? Have you not listened to anything? Her claiming he could be in danger is bull**** and more of an attempt to make you not tell his wife. You need to stop playing her game and start playing yours. Why are you letting her hold all the cards when she is the one in th wrong? @ Posted via Mobile Device
"The full package is going out this week. Two things have changed: my wife says she needs to move out of the house for a few days, and two, she said she didn't care if I sent the whole package, because she isn't friends with OM anymore.
I sometimes feel like the detoxing/defogging has begun, and my w is saying a few things in the right direction. But I continue to see a lot of blame shifting, rationalization etc. she is still not prepared for total transparency. She isn't putting kids first. It is still all about her.
50% chance of filing in two weeks. This chick still thinks I am not serious."
Your wife is extremely angry with you for standing up for yourself. Her actions since you have stood up to her have been those of an angry child throwing a temper tantrum to get her way. Stealing your computer. Acting very irrationally. Putting herself first and not thinking of anyone else. Very selfish and manipulative. These all are the actions of a spoiled child. She has become accustomed to being able to manipulate you. She is used to you backing down and expects you to cave. Just like with your kids, if you give in to a temper tantrum and they get their way, the next time it gets even worse. Well, your wife has been used to you giving in and getting her way. She is filled with rage that you are no longer allowing her to manipulate you. Ignore her manipulative words and actions and stand firm.
Do yourself a favor and file right away. Don't wait for two weeks and don't wait for her to move out. She will not start to work this out with you until you file. She will continue to try to manipulate. Of course she doesn't think you are serious yet. You have always backed down in the past and she expects to be able to get her way now. My kids know when I say I'm going to give you x amount of time to do what I ask or else I will do x they wait until one minute before and then finally do it, or they wait until the time has passed to see if I will actually do it. Your wife is acting just like this. She is used to you backing down and expects you to cave. However long you wait to file, that's how much extra pain you're putting yourself through.
The full package is going out this week. Two things have changed: my wife says she needs to move out of the house for a few days, and two, she said she didn't care if I sent the whole package, because she isn't friends with OM anymore.
I sometimes feel like the detoxing/defogging has begun, and my w is saying a few things in the right direction. But I continue to see a lot of blame shifting, rationalization etc. she is still not prepared for total transparency. She isn't putting kids first. It is still all about her.
50% chance of filing in two weeks. This chick still thinks I am not serious. Posted via Mobile Device
Nothing has changed except she's leaving you. Duh
Your posts reek of neediness, weakness, clingyness. Of course she doesn't think you will file. Neither do I. At least in the near future. You tell her everything. You will be on the floor groveling next. Don't you see your actions are making her want to run from you? You have literally been out maned by a geriatric old man. They have made you their *****.
She sats she doesn't care if you send him the texts. She's LYING She no longer cares for him.. LYYYYYYYYIIIINNNNGGGG.
The only thing you have accomplished with talking to her is............. she's moving out.
You have put your head in the sand. If you don't pull it out now, kiss your family goodbye.
I think your refusing to send things has bought her and him time to make some plans.
I don't see any fog clearing here - she's still selfish, lying, protecting the affair etc.
Rules of her moving out:
1. She pays for all of it herself - not a dime from you. You need to move money and paychecks into accounts she can't access, and to cut off any shared CC before she goes.
2. If you haven't already get a VAR in her car.
3. you change the locks the moment she goes. She is out - no popping back home when you aren't there. If she comes over - you need to know when.
4. If you can afford it, find a PI and have someone monitor her after she leaves - at least the first 48 hours. You'll find out who she's planning on hooking up with.
"The full package is going out this week. Two things have changed: my wife says she needs to move out of the house for a few days, and two, she said she didn't care if I sent the whole package, because she isn't friends with OM anymore.
I sometimes feel like the detoxing/defogging has begun, and my w is saying a few things in the right direction. But I continue to see a lot of blame shifting, rationalization etc. she is still not prepared for total transparency. She isn't putting kids first. It is still all about her.
50% chance of filing in two weeks. This chick still thinks I am not serious."
Your wife is extremely angry with you for standing up for yourself. Her actions since you have stood up to her have been those of an angry child throwing a temper tantrum to get her way. Stealing your computer. Acting very irrationally. Putting herself first and not thinking of anyone else. Very selfish and manipulative. These all are the actions of a spoiled child. She has become accustomed to being able to manipulate you. She is used to you backing down and expects you to cave. Just like with your kids, if you give in to a temper tantrum and they get their way, the next time it gets even worse. Well, your wife has been used to you giving in and getting her way. She is filled with rage that you are no longer allowing her to manipulate you. Ignore her manipulative words and actions and stand firm.
Do yourself a favor and file right away. Don't wait for two weeks and don't wait for her to move out. She will not start to work this out with you until you file. She will continue to try to manipulate. Of course she doesn't think you are serious yet. You have always backed down in the past and she expects to be able to get her way now. My kids know when I say I'm going to give you x amount of time to do what I ask or else I will do x they wait until one minute before and then finally do it, or they wait until the time has passed to see if I will actually do it. Your wife is acting just like this. She is used to you backing down and expects you to cave. However long you wait to file, that's how much extra pain you're putting yourself through.
And this woman is a doctor? I hope she never has to treat me for anything!
My WW has only had one affair. The OM has had past affairs and is desperate to keep them secret.
I am sending out the whole package of texts.
Since my last update, my wife says they have had cut things off, and she is ready to move on.
I am not informing her of anything.
I have made it clear that if she doesn't go on a family trip that was planned months ago, I am filing. Same with her moving out.
She is the bigger breadwinner, but not only. The common accts are well protected. She can only move some smaller cash amounts around, which I have too. Posted via Mobile Device
My WW has only had one affair. The OM has had past affairs and is desperate to keep them secret.
I am sending out the whole package of texts.
Since my last update, my wife says they have had cut things off, and she is ready to move on.
I am not informing her of anything.
I have made it clear that if she doesn't go on a family trip that was planned months ago, I am filing. Same with her moving out.
I plan to put a couple of VARs in place this week.
She is the bigger breadwinner, but not only. The common accts are well protected. She can only move some smaller cash amounts around, which I have too. Posted via Mobile Device
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