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Old 03-02-2012, 01:11 PM   #16 (permalink)
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Mark you are so off base …..Well ,Sorry Lady , if thats what you think...

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Statistically speaking…( To hell with these false Reports !!! )

When the husband cheats, "98% "of wives chose to stay with their cheating husband and repair the marriage.

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( whatever the percentage ,most chose/choose to stay, since they are insecure without their hubbies out of fear or for security reasons and children,further the facts of these days in the world is that far less husbands cheat than wives, their reasons are sexual than anything else, as your hubby does)

When the wife cheats, only about 5% of the husbands chose to stay with their cheating wife and repair the marriage.
( women cheat more than men,and the reasons are merely sexual and though they have loving husbands....)

Cheating: it's increasing with a larger difference in %ges,like if its <>50% men, its 50-60%>n more by women)....cant believe or get this..?
you are in the DISTORTED SOCIETAL BELIEFS...aided by wrong statistics ...

Thus statically speaking, you are all wet.( your view makes you think so and marvel in its uncanny perceptions)

Now,you yourself have the wrong statistics in your prejudiced data base of your mind...then who can convince you regard to reality...? perhaps Michelle Langley or "Evolutionary & Social Scientists "..or True Sexologists ..who can tell you The Reality if you are closed on it ?, that which overthrows all crap statistics you have pointed out? , may be you will be downright wet by all those details once you get it correct...

Further I could care less what others do. This is my life and I make the decisions about what I will and will not allow in my life.

---Yes , its your life, your trouble, so care less on others opinions too , why drum a Congo here, on yours and your hubby's trble then.?Why do you ask for advice or suggestions by posting,if you dint care for others' opinions..?


Get a clue. In my post I mention years of him cheating not only on line but meeting women that he knows from on line and having affairs with them in real life. From that the astute reader would realize that there is a lot more going on here than the little bit I talked about in my post.

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In my first post I have disclosed only about 1% of what has gone in over the years and what is going on right now.

Rest assured that we have already gone through all the counseling, psychiatric visits, etc etc. NOTHING has changed his behavior; he only gets more and more secretive. Since my original post I have found more things online to include that he has been on web sites for married people looking for local women to meet and have sex with.

And things in our marriage only get worse and worse.

None of the above apply to my situation. When giving advice, I suggest that you ask questions first before jumping to conclusions.

----Hmmm..If people give suggestions( which are not necessarily the final advice), does it mean that you should take those? do you think people here has given "advice" by doing so with all details given and then were analysed by them..?do anyone really care.? You seem in the same agitation as you are with your issue..You can do one thing, Calm down and relax,think,analyse,infer decide..
Be strong and be an over comer.

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Old 03-02-2012, 01:15 PM   #17 (permalink)
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Statistically speaking…

When the husband cheats, 98% of wives chose to stay with their cheating husband and repair the marriage.

When the wife cheats, only about 5% of the husbands chose to stay with their cheating wife and repair the marriage.
Thus statically speaking, you are all wet.
those figures are very much on the outlier of what would be expected and contradictory to what's I've seen on the boards

where on earth did you get those figures?
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Old 03-03-2012, 04:23 PM   #18 (permalink)
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those figures are very much on the outlier of what would be expected and contradictory to what's I've seen on the boards

where on earth did you get those figures?
I believe I read that in a book by James C. Dobson. The part of the book it was in was talking about how very differently men and women react to infidelity by their spouse.

If I can find a source for the statistic that has a link I will post the link.
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Mark Val,

Stop your nonsense. I do not care you be attacked by you on here.

If you think that I am wrong in leaving a man who is a serial adulterer and who also engages in cyber sex for hours a day then I could care less what you think.

Just leave me alone.

I'm not in the mood for this nonsense.
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Old 03-03-2012, 04:34 PM   #20 (permalink)
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Hope,

He sounds almost word for word like a poster that as here before.. .making the same claims. There are a few people who post inappropriate things. Not a lot can be done except ignore them.

I do hope you are having a better day today. Keep us posted.
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Old 03-04-2012, 12:41 AM   #21 (permalink)
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This reminds me so much of my ex husband. Always promising that he'd seen the light...beg and plead and literally cry for another chance...eventually I would catch him online with these woman yet again...and I'll never know exactly how many of them went PA. I gave him a million chances and did things I wasn't comfortable with - mostly out of my own fear - for naught. Eventually, the morning after his most recent sex addicts meeting (*rolling eyes*), I slept late. I got up, and he was online. He was holding our infant son. He didn't see me walk up. I saw what was on the screen...dating site... was telling some woman how hot she is. When I - shocked - asked him how he could do that again???...I got beaten nicely. Right in front of my kids. Then he did it again a few hours later. Obviously, that's when the sorry POS hit the pavement FOR GOOD.

My point is, guys that are into the cybering and other "secret sex" are pathologically dishonest sorts. They also embody the old fashion notion of a pervert. And I believe that any spouse who can do this kind of thing over and over and over is a sociopath. No normal human can be that cruel. That pain is too enormous. Serial cheaters are sociopaths with a permanent "right of way."

I hope you get away cleaning and quickly. I hope you get away. It gets better! Truly it does!
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Old 03-04-2012, 12:50 AM   #22 (permalink)
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Mark Val,

If you think that I am wrong in leaving a man who is a serial adulterer and who also engages in cyber sex for hours a day then I could care less what you think.

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---My Hurt Lady, to be frank, I dont like anyone cheating among a Couple, whether it's hubby or wife... and if I could meet this guy , I would have beaten him black and blue ( even the Undertaker would find it difficult to match Me)...for cheating on you..inspite of repeated forgiveness and chance giving..

nevertheless, try a final attempt and chance as I already indicated, finally, if you think , you cant repair it or it's beyond repair then chuck the guy and find a new Life....

and as for the Statistics ,I was just telling The Real Pic...which most is unaware in the wrong information on the same...which some and many think ,just as you too, to be the Fact,sadly mistaken in distorted societal and statistical "hoax..! it needs a wider knowledge base on knowledge on real scenarios and analysis .TC
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