Re: Am I being hasty and cruel?
Wow, what a turn around. Sorry for the directness, but it can help clear away the fog. No one here thinks less of you for going through the process. They've all been there. You are now respecting yourself, your wife has now seen the man you are. She was rubbing your nose in it, and now her fog has lifted too. Now you are in the drivers seat, where the BS should be.
You are not a failure in this relationship. I would suggest getting some meds from the doctor. Keep posting here, the others are on your side and will help you.