03-02-2012, 11:44 PM
Join Date: Mar 2012
| | Re: Would I be running away from the problem?
I am a marriage counselor and owner of The Marriage and Family Clinic
in Denver, CO I ALWAYS tell my clients not to make any big, life changing decisions within a month after discovering an affair (i.e. making an instant decision to D or S) Why? Because emotions are too raw and heated and your mind is too jumbled. In other words, you may look back and regret your decisions. Having an affair is a legitimate reason for divorce but you could save yourself a lot of years of your life and a lot of money by working through it.
If you feel you need to take a break for a bit to clear your head then do it! a vacation or business trip would be perfect. Whether or not you're running away from your issues depends on your intent in getting away. IF your going away to avoid the embarassment, shame, and thought of your husband having an affair then yes, you're running away. If you're going away to clear your head so that you can think more clearly and make better decisions when you finally decide to face it, then you're absolutely not running away.