Re: Wife of 11 years cheated on me
I am not, to my knowledge, in an unfaithful relationship. I agree that exposure to the OM's wife is necessary. Picture if someone told you three months (or however long ago it started). You'd be in the same place you are now, with three months more of life to live. Do not do it for selfish or retribution reasons. Only because it is the right thing.
You cannot force your wife to love you, not trying to is the only way to get her back. Now that she is not in the house, she is likely in the clouds with her OM. It's likely turned physical. There is little you can do while she is in the fog. Oh - she's likely compiled a long list of things that are wrong with your relationship - do not buy this BS. They are manufactured to justify (to herself and the other people she'll eventually have to tell) her behavior. If there were these problems, it is so coincidental how they just surfaced at the same time as her affair.
The other thing is that she may start bad talking you to others, her family and friends, to make herself feel and look better - she looks terrible as a cheater, not as bad if you were a crap husband.