Re: Wife of 11 years cheated on me
SprucHub & others - thanks for brutal honesty. And people here, thanks for bearing with me as i come to terms with something that up until a few days ago, I was denying. I am new but suddenly immersed in a world of things I have only recently come to realize are actually patterns for infidelity. It is absolutely sickening to read this and feel as if I am reading a script of my life in a matter of a few short days. My D-Day was actually Feb 21. I spent the first week feeling miserable for myself and lost in a pit of anger deeper than I could get out of. I fought to get up every day since for my beautiful daughter and son. You think you know someone. Its a realization unlike any other I have ever had in my life. We were supposed to go on an Easter week vacation as a family to Disneyworld, neither of my kids have ever been. Thinking about that now I want to vomit. I finally grew a set of balls yesterday after reading about the patterns of infidelity, and some posts that were stickied on here about the actual stages of behavior the cheating spouse goes through. And it was like reading the book on my wife. Shes off deflecting blame, saying that the speration is for her to get some space while we work on our marital issues. We are apart because she made a decision to choose him over her family. That realization has been like pulling my head out from underwater, or out of my @ss - so when she called last night to ask me how I was, I asked her if she had anything to say to me because I was busy getting the kids meals cooked. No, she just wanted to see how I was doing. F-U! Im doing fine I said, and I reminded her of her decision to have her affair and asked that she call only if its for logistics with the kids, or if she has anything to share about what she is willing to do to come clean.
In the meantime, and again, please bear with me, as Im trying to hold down my job as I read and do all of this.....I have started working on a plan to get to the OMW. They live in a large house in a gated community but I am working on figuring out which school she drops her kids off at in the morning so I can have a chance to confront her after the kids are gone and hes not around.
The GPS locator is a 6-month charged device and I will use it in the interim to keep her honest in her new apt that her Dad is no doubt currently furnishing.
thats it for now