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post #76 of 141 (permalink) Old 03-08-2012, 02:14 PM
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Re: Wife of 11 years cheated on me

Yeah it was inevitable that he was going to toss your wife to the curb after the deed was done.

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Unlike OW, OM almost always throw their married women under the bus (that is that bump you felt after he called you).

'I'd rather live by a dream, than live by a lie.
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You could also use your cell phone to record all conversations with your WW. Make sure you have enough memory. After a few recordings email them to you accounts. Erase - repeat.
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Police officer was on my street so I inquired about a restraining order and she told me to not hesitate if I felt threatened. What was most telling about this jackaz is how controlling he is of his wife and how he wished I would have called him....so that none of this would ever get to his wife
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Police officer was on my street so I inquired about a restraining order and she told me to not hesitate if I felt threatened. What was most telling about this jackaz is how controlling he is of his wife and how he wished I would have called him....so that none of this would ever get to his wife
I got the same conversation from the OM when I exposed my W's early EA. Thank God I caught hers early.
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Police officer was on my street so I inquired about a restraining order and she told me to not hesitate if I felt threatened. What was most telling about this jackaz is how controlling he is of his wife and how he wished I would have called him....so that none of this would ever get to his wife
Well done.

Have you spoken to your wife since exposure?
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OM called me at home. Told me his wife told him I visited her and he wished I could have called him so we could work this out. Didn't have VAR so didn't want to say much. He denied having anything other than a mutual friendship and said my issues are between me and my wife and to eave him and his family out of it. He's no doubt already called WW
What utter ****ing hypocrisy.
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The OM is as big a coward as your WW.

Keep up the pressure!!
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Matrix,

I just re-read your thread.

Take half of whatever $$ is in your accounts and secure it in new accounts.
Only take half but definitely start covering your ass.

You just blew up her world and she`s not thinking right she could do anything.

Call a lawyer and begin divorce proceedings, you can stop these proceedings at any time prior to a judge signing the papers so if reconciliation is the route you and she decide to take it`s no big deal.

The actual documented reality of divorce papers will rock her world again so it`s best to do it quick and hope she becomes remorseful if you want R.

If you don`t want R then the process is begun and will be over sooner.

Either way it`s your best next step.

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Cancel al your joint credit cards now!!
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We have no joint cards. I will be opening a new account tomorrow am WW has gone silent (first day of no contact since d day) and the kids are with me thru Sun so at even a HINT of threat I'm filing for restraining from OM
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You could also use your cell phone to record all conversations with your WW. Make sure you have enough memory. After a few recordings email them to you accounts. Erase - repeat.
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Looking for a way to do this on iPhones but all the apps got bad reviews. Don't want to wait to buy a var does anyone have a good way for doing this on iphone
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Good job on on the exposure. Did you tell him to keep away from your wife and not contact her again?

So glad you took great advise and didn't wait around.
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