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Looking for a way to do this on iPhones but all the apps got bad reviews. Don't want to wait to buy a var does anyone have a good way for doing this on iphone
I use this app for voice recording on my iPhone.

Top Secret Audio Recorder for iPhone, iPod touch (2nd generation), iPod touch (3rd generation), iPod touch (4th generation), and iPad on the iTunes App Store


It costs a buck and does the job.

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Wow, look at all of us in these messes. Why don't people look before they leap? All this bloodshed could be avoided if people weren't self centered cowards.

We all get lost and confused, but we marry (when from the heart) so we don't have to face these issues alone. So we will have someone by our side, helping, comforting, guiding, pushing and pulling us to the right end. We are all flesh, blood, heart and soul beings that need each other.

I have been studying Nichiren Buddhism for almost 10 years now. Maybe this can help you deal with some emotions and view points.
No I am not preaching or trying to change anyone's religion, but through this I have learned patience is NOT a virtue, it is a way of life. All of this, as I see it, is logical.

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For me I have found myself in the six lower realms for a good portion of my life. All of you have been there too. But as you see, being there for complete strangers allows us to step out of the lower and into the upper. I don't know what I would if I hadn't asked for help. MatrixD, you did the right thing by asking as well. I hope you feel as strengthend as I do now. I still haven't filed for divorce, there is a remaining shred of hope that she will wake up, come to her senses and we can grow and learn from this sort of thing. But, it's not easy for men on this sort of thing. We have an ego, and when it is damaged is not easily repaired. It takes several hot 21 year old girls to fully rebound. (I don't make the rules, I just enjoy them) We will always come back from these things, and if we don't we won't be around to care.
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For me I have found myself in the six lower realms for a good portion of my life. All of you have been there too. But as you see, being there for complete strangers allows us to step out of the lower and into the upper. I don't know what I would if I hadn't asked for help. MatrixD, you did the right thing by asking as well. I hope you feel as strengthend as I do now. I still haven't filed for divorce, there is a remaining shred of hope that she will wake up, come to her senses and we can grow and learn from this sort of thing. But, it's not easy for men on this sort of thing. We have an ego, and when it is damaged is not easily repaired. It takes several hot 21 year old girls to fully rebound. (I don't make the rules, I just enjoy them) We will always come back from these things, and if we don't we won't be around to care.
I appreciate what I have picked up here more than any other crisis in my life. I came here trembling and scared over a week ago, my life in ruins around me, and incapable of feeling anything but rage, pity and betrayal. It has been the darkest few weeks of my life but I now refuse to live in that place any longer. I've been blessed to have a truly amazing best friend for the last 28 years, and his support has helped me stand up, along with the solid advice given here. I was petrified of the thought of divorce even a week ago. It still scares me to think of a broken home for my two children that I love more than anything imaginable. But, no longer fear it because if it happens, it's because I decided not to continue down the path I've been cheated into taking, and start taking control of the rest of my life. Sure, I'll still be scared, but I'll be able to look at myself in the mirror every day and know that I've done the right thing by myself, and by my children. What doesn't kill us makes us stronger.
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I appreciate what I have picked up here more than any other crisis in my life. I came here trembling and scared over a week ago, my life in ruins around me, and incapable of feeling anything but rage, pity and betrayal. It has been the darkest few weeks of my life but I now refuse to live in that place any longer. I've been blessed to have a truly amazing best friend for the last 28 years, and his support has helped me stand up, along with the solid advice given here. I was petrified of the thought of divorce even a week ago. It still scares me to think of a broken home for my two children that I love more than anything imaginable. But, no longer fear it because if it happens, it's because I decided not to continue down the path I've been cheated into taking, and start taking control of the rest of my life. Sure, I'll still be scared, but I'll be able to look at myself in the mirror every day and know that I've done the right thing by myself, and by my children. What doesn't kill us makes us stronger.
Way to be! Like GI JOE, knowing is half the battle. You see and can understand your options. You can clearly see what is going on around you. Maybe for the first time in years. You'll respect yourself more than when you were putting up with the sexlessness and distance and depression: her self-pity show.
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Does this record incoming calls to the iPhone? That's what I'm after. A discrete way to record calls to my cell
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I'll give google voice a shot, the others are not very seamless when receiving a call
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you handled this the right way hopefully it will end for the best but you definitely carried yourself well
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Does this record incoming calls to the iPhone? That's what I'm after. A discrete way to record calls to my cell
If you're trying to record her incoming calls, then try one of these:

Mobile Spy - Monitor SMS Text Messages, Call Info and GPS Locations on iPhone, BlackBerry, Android, Windows Mobile and Symbian OS Smartphones. Spy Software for Monitoring your Cell Phone

Cell Phone Spy Software, Cell Phone monitoring Software

You will have to jailbreak the iPhone to install these.

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Does this record incoming calls to the iPhone? That's what I'm after. A discrete way to record calls to my cell
No authorized app will do such a thing.

You`ll need to jailbreak the iPhone and download an app from cydia if you want to record phone conversations on an iPhone.
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Yeah, about the only way to hear calls to a cell are to have a VAR in the room - even then you only get the one side.

you're looking to wiretap - and that my friend is a no go zone.
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Update I bought a var and it's in my pocket at all times in case WW or OM contact me. Thanks all for the help to date
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Has she still not contacted you? Wonder if OM has told her you exposed them or not? Did you tell her family?
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Still no contact so I don't know. I've kind of gone dark on her at this point but I'm assuming he got to her by now. My focus is me and my kids. My daughter is messed up about not seeing her mom
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