warlock07

Ever heard of gfs cheating with their gay best friend and the gay best friend turning out to be a bi-sexual?

Jilted-canadian

Sorry... new here and since they are different subjects, I wasn't sure if I should use the same thread or a new one...

Jilted-canadian

Whole story is here: 23 years- out the window....

chapparal

She trying out somebody. Who's name is the phone in?

You need to file, she has no known boundaries. She's lying so much, even switching cars, to fool you. Her whole life has become a secret. She either has a boyfriend or a girlfriend.

You can hang with her as long as you can stand it or you can try to save your family.

Number one the bartending job has to go. Hell, anyone knows that.

warlock07

I don't particularly see a reason to lie and be at his house if it was just a emotional relationship. The asexual thing was told to you by your wife right?

Jilted-canadian

No... it was told to me by HIS ex-wives. Both of them.

chapparal

The guys ex wives supposedly. He was probably banging someone else instead ot them.

chapparal

Means nothing.

warlock07

asexual or some sort of sexual deviant? How do you know these ex-wives?

EleGirl

Is your wife accusing your of stalking?

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Jilted-canadian

Not legally no. But when she lies about her whereabouts and I check, she says I'm stalking her. I am guessing she's using that as an excuse to deflect blame, because she's just been caught in a lie.

warlock07

What was her reasons to lie?

One more possibility is a 3rd party that is an acquaintance of this Bert and his sister? And Bert is enabling the affair between the two. Bert might well as be a red herring. maybe the number she has under Bert is not actually Bert?

bryanp

When people have nothing to hide they hide nothing. The fact that you are constantly catching her in lies is sending you a clear message. She is lying to you because she is hiding something. I am sure that your wife would be quite fine with you hanging out at night with a good female asexual friend at her home and of course lying about it.......NOT.

She is a bartender who hangs out with another man after work late at night and continues to lie to you about it. It does not sound like you have much of a marriage. What are you getting remaining in this so-called marriage of yours?

EleGirl

If she is using that word then you have to be careful. She is escalating to a very bad place.

The fact that she is lying and hiding things from you is enough for you take action.

IMHO you should treat this as an affair, either she ends her relationship with his guy, gives you 100% transparency (gives you the password to her cell and lets you check anytime you want) and spends at least 15 hours a week doing date-like things with you, tells you where she is and does not complain if you check… then it’s divorce time.

It is completely inappropriate that she spend a large amount of time with another man. It would be wrong if she did it just with a female friend as well. A spouse needs to be sensitive to the other’s needs and those things that cause distresss.

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warlock07

I just was thinking if she went lesbian?(Bert's sister or someone in the friend's circle)