TRy

Checking on your wife's whereabouts is not stalking because she is your wife. No court would rule otherwise unless the wife had a restraining order, and even then it would not be considered stalking as long as he keep his distance. There is a legal definition to stalking and the cheater does not get to change that meaning just because they want to blame shift.

lordmayhem

Agreed.

You cant be stalking your wife unless you're separated. This is all part of her blameshifting to cover up her affair. Stop being so accomodating and end this.
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Lon

So what if it IS stalking, she was lying you trusted your gut and found out the truth, that she was actually with another man behind your back. So know you know, what are you doing about it, sounds like you are just going about daily business hoping this is nothing very threatening. Draw your line in the sand, your W either wants to be in the marriage with you or not, if so then you will both do what it takes to get on the same page, do MC, no contact with other men, no lies. After you set your boundary, if she crosses then tell her good bye, have a good life, sayonnara.

CH

Doesn't mean he won't sleep with her.

How many have looked at the OM and said there is no way she's cheating on me with that guy. I've posted on another thread, what they lack in the looks department, they make up big time in the making her feel like a goddess department.

And sometimes even a goddess will bestow some of her good fortune on a loyal follower.

warlock07

I am seriously considering if Humble Pie is trolling

Jilted-canadian

You guys are probably all right.

I caught her lying to me again last night, when she told me she was at "Sylvia's" house, and she was with "Bert" at a bar. I totally busted them, told her point blank, him or me, and she chose him. Will be seeking legal advice ASAP.

Shaggy

Move 50 % of any joints money to your account only today and cancel any joint ccs now!
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Jilted-canadian

Thanks Lord Mayhem! Gonna try that one tonight!

Does this work for deleted messages too? And can one back up a BB while it is password protected?

canttrustu

heres your sign......

Runs like Dog

Yeah it's kind of stalky. But here's my point. There's no difference between guilt and your own presumption of guilt.

TRy

No reason to drop a VAR or to get info off of her phone or computer. She chose him. It is over. You must now do the 180 and move. File for divorce and only consider otherwise if she comes asking. Only if she really thinks you are moving on will she even consider committing to you again on terms that do not include other men in her life.

If she is OK with you moving on then it was over anyway you were just letting it die a slow death while losing all dignity and self respect.

bandit.45

So sorry this happened to you. Get half your money out now and cancel the credit cards like Shaggy says. Then pack your wife's clothes in garbage bags, put them on the front porch, call a keysmith to change the locks and keep her out of the house until she gets a court order to let her back in. Playing hardball with her is the only way to get through to her. And yes, get the Divorce underway asap.
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bryanp

Now you have your answer. What woman would choose Burt over her husband and marriage if she was not banging this guy?

bandit.45

She's a cheat and a liar. Nuff said.
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lordmayhem

I'm not sure, but you just hook up the blackberry to the computer via the data cable and the option the data cable. The option to back up the blackberry is in the desktop manager just like in iTunes. The password lock is just so you cannot access functions on the phone. It should be able to access deleted texts.
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