Is My Wife Cheating? Signs are there. Facts Are Not.
I'm new to this forum and am hoping for some advice. I'm 49 years old and my wife is a 25 year old Filipina. We've been married for four and a half fine years and we have two beautiful mixed Fil-Am children of 3 and 1 years old. Last fall we visited the Philippines and there was some arguing between us about the rate she was spending our money on her Filipino family. We returned in October and she wanted to go back to work at a fast-food she previously worked at.The general manager (a woman) of this fast-food is a personal friend of both of ours so I agreed. I don't need her income, but I thought if she wanted to save a little nest-egg for her family in the Phils that was fine. Not even a month into her employment she begins telling about this assistant manager who has taken a liking to her, given her 2 raises, and now wants to promote her to manager also. Now I've been around the block, played a cat and mouse game with my cheating ex-wife for sixteen years so I know a red flag when I see it. I told my wife to watch out for this guy as he is probably going to expect some return for his deeds. She tells me he's married. I told her, that doesn't matter. She tells me he's nice. I said, OF COURSE HE"S NICE.
Come January she still seems unhappy at home; very moody, sometimes it's like going home to rattlesnake. Even to the kids she can be irate sometimes. The night before my birthday she tells me she's going to Walmart to pick up my birthday gift so she'll be late. My son wanted to watch a movie so we slept downstairs. Her clockout receipt showed she clocked out at 11:13pm. Arrived home at 1:09Am. Walmart is 5 mins from the house and her job is only 5mins from walmart. She is also out of Uniform, her top and necktie removed only the tee shirt underneath underneath. Seems really fishy to me. She was very reluctant to give up sex and often sleeps on the couch downstairs blaming my snoring. I planned a cruise for the first week of feb. but she seemed totally unenthused by it. Didn't even want to talk about it until I told her I was going to take my older son from a previous marriage instead of her because of her attitude. Then she came around. BTW we all had a good time. Her next wrk day after the cruise though she came home on time, but seemingly aloof. She knew I was awake, but she went to the bathroom, removed her panties then began washing her bottom with water. Later as she slept I checked the panties and there to be a whitish residue on the crotch line. Not feeling well I slept down on the couch that night. Around
Between 1 and 1:30 a vehicle sped through our neighborhood slowing at our house then going around the block and coming by again. This worried me, so the next day I confronted her about all my worries and of course she denied any wrong doing. I took her clock out receipt to the general manager at her job (our friend) asking if anyone could falsify this she she seemed annoyed by this but said NO, she was the only one who could change the times. Things got pretty dicey between my wife and I after that. She stayed awake alot of the night like she was thinking and didn't seemed very unhappy, of course saying, 'I didn't trust her.'
Since then I have take "steps" to protect myself. But the manager in question has either quit, or been fired from the restaurant. My wife says he quit and has another job. I suspect the general manager may have suspected something after I contacted her. If these two were doing the deed they would have had to literally be doing right there in the office especially the night I described, because the numbers add up. Her clock out times and drive home time are good. Also vehicle mileage is right on for the distance. Have a cell phone tracking software on her phone but everything is good and accounted for. No suspicious numbers. Only thing is she has just added Skype to her cell phone. Any suggestions welcome