Ive been struggling with my body image since I found out in early December that my husband had an affair while we were seperated.
The area I've been struggling with and never liked is my breasts.
Ive wanted him to say that even though they are not perfect for him that he still likes them. Today in counseling he said the kids ruined them and that they are saggy. I also asked him if he would pay attention to them more after a breast augmentation. His response was " a kid with a new toy!!"
So I guess the answer was yes he would pay way more attention to them after I get a breast enlargement.
I've always wanted to have a breast enlargement and before our seperation he even was wanting me to make a consultation appt for surgery during a period of time. He never before would come out and be so open about what he thought. I guess that's what he thought the whole time, but the difference now is that I know he's been with someone with much nicer larger breasts than mine. That's what hurts. He was not willing to say he liked my breasts the way they are now, even when printed by the counselor.
So now when my husband jokes about who is going to pay for them. I'm gonna say your gonna pay for your new toys.
I guess since now that I know he wants them almost as bad as I do, I should not worry about when I will get them. I do hope I don't have to wait years for then though. We have talked about using a tax return to pay for most or all of it. This tax return is shot since we have to use it on needed things only and next tax return the government will take everything but earned income credit and kids tax credit Posted via Mobile Device
I hope fake breasts are the magic pill that you are making them out to be. I can appreciate you wanting them from a body image stand point, but do you wonder if the novelty of them being your H's "new toys" will wear off, and you'll still be stuck with whatever REAL issues are still there?
I hope fake breasts are the magic pill that you are making them out to be. I can appreciate you wanting them from a body image stand point, but do you wonder if the novelty of them being your H's "new toys" will wear off, and you'll still be stuck with whatever REAL issues are still there?
thats right, just as he himself said.
just like a kid with a new toy, play with it for a minute then throw it in the corner and go find something else to play with.
I said it in your other thread - the size of your breasts is NOT the problem here. The problem is your self centered husband. If you want to improve your body image, do some exercise, some meditation, and learn to accept yourself for who you ARE. Who cares what your husband thinks, seriously!!
I cannot believe you really think having bigger boobs is going to save your marriage.
There is NO way in he!! I would stay with a guy who refused to tell me my breasts were fine just the way they are. Your husband is a shallow, shallow man and he does NOT deserve you.
You're gonna get the new boobs and then he'll start in on your butt, your belly and your wrinkles. Mark my words.
I agree with everything everyone has already said. If you get your breasts augmented, you should do it for yourself. There is nothing wrong with fixing what has been altered by having the kids. Having nice perky boobs may help with your self confidence, your appearance, and as an added benefit, will turn on your husband. My wife had them done because she wanted to feel more womanly. I happen to love small breasts, so it was not a good thing for me. After 10 years, she now has to have them redone as they are sagging.
First I'm sorry this thread got repeated. I have only my phone to post with right now.
I agree that my boobs will not fix my marriage. I believe they will make me happier though.
My husband is tougher on his body image than I am of mine. He seems to be a perfectionist. I'm perfect in every way but the size of my breasts. I'm lucky that I have no stretch marks from having 3 kids.
My husband thinks he has a huge gut and that he needs to look like a Calvin Kline model. He also has poor self asteem about his sexual performance, but he is unwilling to try anything new. Posted via Mobile Device
I've never seen any of those bras with holes for your nipples, lol! Guess I better look.
We have not resumed sex since his surgery. I'm itching to get back into it now. He's afraid of it hurting him. I told him I would give him a hand job and that he could finish inside me. He looked at me bewildered and asked who I got the idea from. I told him it was my idea. Posted via Mobile Device
I told him I would give him a hand job and that he could finish inside me. He looked at me bewildered and asked who I got the idea from. I told him it was my idea. Posted via Mobile Device
Does he EVER tell you anything that wouldnt make his wife feel crappy?
Yes he does say lots of sexual indo windows and texts me he loves me. He tells me after he's had a great night relaxing with me which is usually 2-3 times a week that he tells me Posted via Mobile Device
I didn't get the sense that he was meaning to hurt me by asking where I got the idea from. I think he was a little shocked, but probably also wondering if I learned this from someone while we were seperated. Posted via Mobile Device
I said it in your other thread - the size of your breasts is NOT the problem here. The problem is your self centered husband. If you want to improve your body image, do some exercise, some meditation, and learn to accept yourself for who you ARE. Who cares what your husband thinks, seriously!!
I cannot believe you really think having bigger boobs is going to save your marriage.
There is NO way in he!! I would stay with a guy who refused to tell me my breasts were fine just the way they are. Your husband is a shallow, shallow man and he does NOT deserve you.
You're gonna get the new boobs and then he'll start in on your butt, your belly and your wrinkles. Mark my words.
You are making a mistake here.
And when you're done you'll look into the mirror and you won't recognize the person staring back at you.
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Learned something new in counseling today 
You are good enough!
Love it.
