I am going to file. In Australia you have to be separated for a year. My day will come 18/1/2013! I already went to mediation and nailed out a custody agreement, etc. Got in touch with the child support agency too. I did everything I can to be away from him. Now, I just wait. But it all pisses me off so much. On a lighter note, I joined the gym and got a haircut... left him a bit speechless actually
GOOD! Get into the best shape you can, look the best you can so you are confident. Get new undies so you feel sexy even in sweats, put on makeup every morning to feel awake and when you think of him just say, "EFF OFF [name here]!"
You'll be ok! Just gotta change the pattern in your brain about what you think about. let those two losers have each other. BLOCK her twitter account, FB account, etc. They don't exist.
I would be careful about tweeting things on purpose to stir up trouble. Your stbx and the OW might see right through your plan and guess at your motivation. But the problem is they'll most likely assume you're doing this to win your stbx back. I could see it pushing them closer together. As a united front they could ridicule your tweets claiming you're "crazy" and "desperate". In the long run, I think it will hurt you more than it will hurt them.
They're not worth it. To be honest, silence and the unknown do more damage on the human psyche. The OW's own imagination can make her act jealous petty, even if you don't give her a reason to act that way.
Usually the BS will have mind movies that depict images more graphic than the reality, not always, but many times. Our imaginations can be our worst enenmy in these situations, because we take our worst fears and assume that is reality.
Apathy and indifference will not be something the OW expects. She's 18 and probably expects you to act like her peers, which in my opinion is the last thing you should be doing.
The more attention something gets, the important it appears to be. Ignore the OW and your stbx. They don't deserve your attention, even if it's negative, because it gives them a place of importance in your life. Focus on you and your children. Let them see their father, but there's no need to give him anything more.
I'm so sorry you're going through this, but try to focus on the future. The OW will feel your pain someday or she'll make your stbx feel it, the relationship was born out of deception and it will most likely die that way too.
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Glad you're not planning on playing the twitter game with OW. You'll look like the classy one, because you are the classy one.
Like others have said, hold your head up high and get some sexy underwear. It really does help make a girl feel better, even if you're the only one who sees it.
I would be careful about tweeting things on purpose to stir up trouble. Your stbx and the OW might see right through your plan and guess at your motivation. But the problem is they'll most likely assume you're doing this to win your stbx back. I could see it pushing them closer together. As a united front they could ridicule your tweets claiming you're "crazy" and "desperate". In the long run, I think it will hurt you more than it will hurt them.
They're not worth it. To be honest, silence and the unknown do more damage on the human psyche. The OW's own imagination can make her act jealous petty, even if you don't give her a reason to act that way.
Usually the BS will have mind movies that depict images more graphic than the reality, not always, but many times. Our imaginations can be our worst enenmy in these situations, because we take our worst fears and assume that is reality.
Apathy and indifference will not be something the OW expects. She's 18 and probably expects you to act like her peers, which in my opinion is the last thing you should be doing.
The more attention something gets, the important it appears to be. Ignore the OW and your stbx. They don't deserve your attention, even if it's negative, because it gives them a place of importance in your life. Focus on you and your children. Let them see their father, but there's no need to give him anything more.
I'm so sorry you're going through this, but try to focus on the future. The OW will feel your pain someday or she'll make your stbx feel it, the relationship was born out of deception and it will most likely die that way too.
I think you are absolutely right. It's my imagination that is killing me.
dont be afraid to expose because hubby supports you, you have the legal right to half of everything (plus child support) and can nail him if he doesn't comply
The other posters are correct. The way to effect both your stbx and the OW is to not be effected yourself. The best gift you can give the OW is to acknowledge to her that you see her tweets and they upset you.
So, file for separation and support. The best way to effect the OW is to take all your stbx's disposable income. If he has to pay support to you and is left with nothing for dates with the OW, then how long will she remain excited about him? That's the way to get her. Go after your husband and remain apathetic about her.
Take yourself and the kids out for dinner Get dressed up and just go eat something nice and celebrate your health, life and happiness..cause there is still TONS of it to be had
Remember JAWS? The mechanical shark didn't work right, so Steven Speilberg got creative and made it so the audience didn't see the shark until the end. He let the audience use their imaginations and it's one of the scariest movies ever! I only saw the ads as a kid and wouldn't even swim in a pool by the ocean I was so freaked out.
It's a double whammy for you, because you have to deal with the mind movies on your own and will most likely never know the truth. That would be incredibly hard to deal with, so it's normal if you feel a little obsessed about it right now. It will fade over time, maybe it will take longer because you won't get answers, but it will get better.
It's great you joined a gym and cut your hair! Do stuff for you now and know your day will come. You already have your day in court on the calendar, that's totally moving forward and something to be proud of!
And about the new sexy underwear and mind games. Yeah, I'd probably try to think of a way to dispose of a Victoria's Secret bag in a place where it's not noticeable, but might be noticed. Like folded in with the recycles for trash day or something. If the stbx noticed and commented, a shrug would be all that's needed.
Oh it's sooooo hard to not want to play the mind games, but they are fun to think about!
The best revenge is a life well-lived. Look for the day when you can look them both in the eye and thank them, because it set you free to really be happy, whether by finding a great partner you deserve or just with life in general.
Yes, I am attempting to live well... slowly but surely. I think my life will be a single one though. I just can't see myself ever trusting anybody else again. I already gave 8 years away to a cheater, who then proceeded to actually go 1984, and undo our personal history in his head. I'm just glad I found this website
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Re: V for Vendetta....how to piss of the OW 
It really does help make a girl feel better, even if you're the only one who sees it.
