Re: Do affair details hurt or help?
IMO, the BS should never ask for the full details. Mind games are one thing but knowing everything that happened would kill any hopes of R. Knowing how many times, where, what they did is fine. But asking how you did it, how was the other person, what did he/she do to you, what did you do to her/him is asking for ending the marriage.
But if you need it then you should get it.
If my wife knew everything from my 3 month affair there is no way in hell she would have taken me back. And most of you would string me up and lynch me on the spot.
She knew it was an EA/PA but she never wanted every single detail of what I did.