03-24-2012, 09:55 AM
Join Date: Dec 2011
| | Re: Getting over an affair
Originally Posted by chapparal
If your a Christian or a Jew and you get married, you do indeed become one. Other religions,I have no idea. Atheists, its whatever you say it is.
Don't know your situation but it sounds like you bailed on your marriage.
I really don't think religion plays into it that much other than the terminology used in the vows. The truth is I can't think of anything that I might say, do or even think that does not in some way affect my wife and my marriage. Therefore why should I be able to keep those things private? I'd like anyone to give me an example. As far as I'm concerned privacy = secrets and secrets - marriage death.
Openness and transparency do not mean you give up who you are. On the contrary, openness and transparency allow you to be who you are without fear or concern. In the movie Meet Joe Black Quince
is asked how he knows his wife loves him. He replies "Because she knows the worst thing about me and its okay." If you're keeping secrets your spouse doesn't really know you. And then how can you be sure that he/she really loves you?