I'm not a hardcore porn addict or anything, but like most men...I occasionally watched it. After my wifes affair I have zero interest anymore, watching it just disgusts me now. Anyone else have a similar experience.
I guess it's just a trigger for me know, makes me think of her and the OM having sex.
I had the same reaction, though for me it was any porn with BJs in it since that's what they did. Of course, that's pretty much every porn so...yea, I kind of get turned off by them now.
A male member of this forum, the_guy, has stated that he views his wife's affairs as nothing but "bad porno". Also, though the sex may have been enjoyable, it is the currency that a woman pays to receive the attention she craves from the OM. Give this some thought.
A male member of this forum, the_guy, has stated that he views his wife's affairs as nothing but "bad porno". Also, though the sex may have been enjoyable, it is the currency that a woman pays to receive the attention she craves from the OM. Give this some thought.
Yeah, it's all about the attention, not the sex; that's what the women all say. After all, the OM always has a tiny tool (too small for rubbers to fit anyway), can't get it up, and the sex is lousy. Until wifey gets some kickback from the BH; then OM is a mule and the sex was the best ever.
A male member of this forum, the_guy, has stated that he views his wife's affairs as nothing but "bad porno". Also, though the sex may have been enjoyable, it is the currency that a woman pays to receive the attention she craves from the OM. Give this some thought.
this has to be one of the best things ive read in awhile.
i know for sure this applies to my wife, because while she likes sex, its not the be all to end all of the relationship. her affair is completely based around my "neglect" and how the OM "makes her feel special" (or felt as the case currently stands)
im not saying all women cheat fro emotional reasons, but id guess a good 75% or so do.
back to on topic, it is tough to watch pro porn. because the starts and such are constructed a certain way. (ie i found out the OM is quite larger, though during her "moments of clarity" it doenst mean better, s he seems to be the prototypical big guy, tool speaks for it self kinda guy)
i can watch amature where things seem a little less threatening. but other times the mind movies start and thats it.
Yeah, it's all about the attention, not the sex; that's what the women all say. After all, the OM always has a tiny tool (too small for rubbers to fit anyway), can't get it up, and the sex is lousy. Until wifey gets some kickback from the BH; then OM is a mule and the sex was the best ever.
I don't discount that there are some married women out there who do enjoy the sex with the OM (especially if their husband is a selfish lover), but how do you account for female members of this forum who have cheated on their husbands, (who are not married to us and thus have no reason to lie to us) and who have repeatedly said that it wasn't the sex that made them go back to the OM again and again, but the attention (I call it ego gratification) they received from him?
Just because a husband may be well endowed does not mean that his wife won't cheat on him with a man with a below average size penis.
A very long time ago I fell asleep while watching a regular (non porn) film. A sex scene came on where the woman was screaming while the guy was doing her hard. I woke up from the noise and immediately fell into a panic attack thinking about my love laying back and getting this done to her. I'll never forget that feeling.
Porn where the guy is very large graphically shows how different sex must for a women when she's getting penetrated by a huge penis. I suppose that this can be upsetting to some people to think about their wife stretched out like this and getting pounded in all kinds of positions, being completely dominated and being taken to ecstasy with a combination of pain and pleasure. But life can be cruel at times!
Great sex is a combination of many factors (i.e. trust, consideration, physical and mental health, hygiene, personality, attraction, etc.). So until we reincarnate as women and experience sex as women, all our beliefs about the importance of penis size are laughable at best.
This is very interesting, I also stopped on the porn. We watched alot of soft stuff, and we always had the full package when ever me and Mrs. the-guy check in to a room. But right after I finaly confronted her we stopped watching it. Infact even alone I found my self here at TAM instead of getting my porn fix.
I have no explaination, but I too went down this road and I also am healing and have started to get back into some bad habits. Not as much porn as before but the taste for it has come back. Its been 2yrs and 1 month since d-day.
Maybe some of it has to do with the hyper bounding going on? Or the lack of your taste for porn has something to do with the attempt of reclaiming what you though was all yours ? It might be the amount of sex the both of you are having out wieghs the efforts in "rubbing" one out? I also was more interested in tracking my fWW then looking at porn.
Again I can't explain it, but it also happened to me.
I don't discount that there are some married women out there who do enjoy the sex with the OM (especially if their husband is a selfish lover), but how do you account for female members of this forum who have cheated on their husbands, (who are not married to us and thus have no reason to lie to us) and who have repeatedly said that it wasn't the sex that made them go back to the OM again and again, but the attention (I call it ego gratification) they received from him?
It's all wrapped up together in the same primal-biological ball of wax. Most of it is governed by the formerly so-called "reptilian brain." It's all working below the operator's cognizance, the driver says the car went forward because she pressed on the gas pedal. Actually, much more was going on under the hood than the driver knew.
It's all working below the operator's cognizance, the driver says the car went forward because she pressed on the gas pedal. Actually, much more was going on under the hood than the driver knew.
But if she's doesn't know what goes "under her hood" then what makes you think that you or I do?
I feel somewhat the same way about porn. It bothers me particularly if it's themed around the "wayward wife". Additionally...I cannot sit through any non-porn movie or show that focuses on marital infidelity. 17 years after my wife's PA....I still hurt too much for it even register as "it's just a movie"...because it revloves around activity that will invariably leave someone hurting / pained as I am.
And, regarding the possibility that the wife and I will ever view porn together....it's just not going to happen. The triggers will be just too strong....and the anger will just grow out of control.
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Watching porn after wifes affair...painful 
