Join Date: Nov 2010
Location: Hi! my name is ~Pit~.
Re: Confronting tonight
once a DS has passed a thresehold where the cheating becomes brazen, words mean jack squat. they alert him that he needs to be more careful, and give him an opportunity to do damage control.
when he allowed his transgressions to cross into your daughters world by flaunting them on facebook, he lost his "warning shot across the baugh".... Your way behind because you clung to your denial hoping this would go away. Its well past the stages where exposure or confrontation are effective...
Extreme measures are required here.
If there is no reconciling, and you are done... That's easy... He doesn't need or deserve the benefit of being informed. Align your defenses, get your cannons in place and blow the doors off his fantasy world. File. Let your lawyers notify him, drop the hammer. His actions are teaching your daughter a lesson, your actions will be teaching a counter lesson.
If your goal is reconcilation, the course of action becomes more cloudy. But, you have to provide that counter lesson regardingless. He needs consequences, painful ones. Your daughter needs a role model ("hero") and an example to follow... Give her one.