No ****, you must of been hurt really bad or just have little faith in humans.
People are not perfect and everyone ****s up.
I want to learn how (if) I can help us work things out.
She has broken all faith is why you are hearing what you are hearing.
This is not f^ck-up. This is a premeditated series of serious unfaithfulness. Experience has shown folks that when a BS shows this type of faith they are putting themselves in a situation for a life of continual pain.
You are not married and you have no children. You were trying to have children and she had sex with another man. So the inference is that she was not on birth control.
Did they have unprotected sex? Like it or not she was willing to take the risk of getting impregnated by this other dude.
I have faith in my wife. She has earned it. We have grown children.
I have a lot of faith in human beings in that there are an endless number of women who will not cheat on you. You have selected one who is willing to cuckhold you.
Just forgiving her is a display of low value on your part. So you are in a very deep hole. I suggest you do both of you service by starting over again with someone else. She does not have the burden of making up the rest of her life for this round of f^ckup. But she has shown that her character flaw is that she is willing to do this to a man like yourself.
Disrespect me once shame on you. Disrespect me twice shame on me. What you are suggesting is in many ways ethically wrong. Which is for folks to start suggesting you do this.
But your problem is you right now. How do you display high value to her? She saw this other guy as a more fit male to have sex with. How do you change you so that she will respect you? She does not now. Taking her back after she humiliated you in this manner is a huge drop in value of you. You look at it as noble and strong but she sees you as weak. This is not a conscious thing. No man of value is going to allow this without her doing some very heavy lifting. Again it might be different if you had been married for ten years and she was totally faithful prior. And you had children together. Going forward if you have children you will have to wonder who the father is. Tough love buddy.
Do His Needs Her Needs with her and especially the boundary setting. Als start reading www.marriedmansexlife.com
If you do try for R you should not have a child with here now.
But again there are a lot of other women out there who would not do this to you and would love to be loved. Some people however have to learn by going through hell on their own.
A smart person learns from thier mistakes. A very smart person learns from other mistakes. YMMV.