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like a violin.

Several months ago I exposed the affair to the OMW. I got back a response that she didn't care. I only had an email address. This seemed to fit at the time and I left it at that.
Over the past month or so there had been an increase in the amount of lies my stbx [very soon now!] was telling to my daughter. There had been no change to the affair patterns. This seemed odd and raised a red flag considering everything was 'fine" on the other end.
It appears my original emaill was intercepted..

A week ago I decided to resend the email. All hell has broken loose.She forwarded my email to everyone in her address book and his and I have a few calls telling me what a POS I am for telling her siince my phone number was in it. She has packed up and left and my STBXW is joining in the search with the AP.
The Police called me and asked me for details of who had called me and details of my stbxw.

I am a bit blown away.

that_girl

Dang! Wtf?

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Shwagulous

Ing,

Good for you for following up on your gut / red flags! Funny how you are the POS for exposing their actions. When you say "she has packed up and left" I assume you mean the OMW? And if so, why in the world would your WW join in the search? Seems like the fog would make her want to convince the OM to let her go. But maybe that would ruin the cake eating fest they think they have going on?

At any rate, good for you man!!

Pit-of-my-stomach

Well played. Obviously you know, none of this is your fault.

But why is your stbxw searching for omw ???

How disgusting is that?!?. she has an affair with her H then is suddenly concerned for her?

Why are the police involved?

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Catherine602

Why, do you feel you are wrong because people called? They have some nerve shifting blame to you. HE CHEATED. He betrayed his wife. Now you are to blame.

Give me a break. If anyone calls you or attempts to blame you, point out the facts. Ask them if they would like to know if their spouse was cheating.

Don't let them put this on you. Get some support and keep posting so you get a dose of reality.

I wonder if they would have been more sympathetic if you were the betrayed wife?

If that is the case then you were as right as a betrayed woman who expose. Who cares what people say. This is you and your wife and your family not theirs.

His wife had a right to know. It is unfortunate that HIS affair had such an effect on her.

Remember He did this horrible thing to his wife, not you. Sand your ground and don't act like you did something wrong and don't let her shift this to you.

Back her up hard. Pursue the divorce and be relenting in making a settlement. Show them you are not in the wrong.

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I think he has reported her as missing! I happen to know that he went off to work leaving her alone. She apparently has mental health issues. I am not really surprised given their friends attitude to this and his continued lies by him in counselling for a year. The stbxw is in touch with some of the family! This is making me sick. It looks like half his friends and some of the family were gaslighting her!
She has not called me. I wish she would.

ing

Thanks to TAM there is no way in hell they are going to blame shift to me!

Pit-of-my-stomach

So OM's friends & family were aware OM was banging your wife and they actively lied to his wife about it??? now they are concerned???WTF!?!?!

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ing

I was also threatened with legal action by my stbxw if I contacted the OMW again. I literally laughed at this.
Inside I fell apart. She is prepared to mouth the OM's words while not seeing that suing me would harm her children. Police laughed at this too,
I sent a pretty standard TAM exposure letter. Which is good BTW
Start date
Who involved
That it was continuing and some small detail of when it occurred.
Apologies for being one to tell.
my phone number and an offer to talk.
It was the same email I originally sent with dates changed.

My phone number and contact details are all over the Internet!

These two are delusional..

Catherine602

Your remedy is restraining order, charge of harassment. Any threats may be reportable. The police will usually go and talk a person who has made a threatening phone call. That scares them enought to stop.

Keep records of who calls. You can also record the calls. You must inform. Say it before they begin talking. Then they can talk into the microphone.

I meant unrelenting.
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ing

The person who called me refused to leave their name. The number was passed on to the police. It was a non-threatening call, more a " how could you!". I told them how and why i could. I am in a pretty good place mentally and emotionally and can quite easily see this for what it is. I do need to vent though.

Pit-of-my-stomach

if you have an iphone, lots of free call recording apps out there

and well done man, well friggin done!!

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ing

downloading now..

Lon

wow ing, I'm stunned by this turn of events... crazy, sorry you have to deal with these repurcussions of your stbxw's really poor decisions. It is crazy what an affair can drive the cheaters to do...

Beowulf

I was just thinking. How is your financial situation ing? Because this drama sounds like the perfect plot for a made for TV movie. Keep a journal. The script might be worth $$$$$