This kind of cosmic dumbassery occupies a temporal plane of ineptitude and lack of reason so profound a Zen master could spend a lifetime meditating upon its philosophical consequences.”
Five frogs are sitting on a log. Four decide to jump off. How many are left? Still 5 frogs because there’s a difference between deciding and doing.
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"All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing."
"Why do we fall? So we might learn to pick ourselves up."
"It’s not who we are underneath, but what we do that defines us."
For many (myself included) having an affair shatters your self image. You've done something you thought you would never be capable of to the most important person in your life. It's very much like waking up inside a stranger's head. How did I do that? What else am I capable of? Am I really a horrible person? All questions that take a while to sort out.