Isnt he suppose to chase
So, to update and add a question for all of you out there. I decided to take a break from my fiance, well, Im not exaclty sure what he is now. But, I need space, a time to clear my head. So much has happened in the last two months, that I needed a break. I am just not happy, and I need to find myself.
But as I was trying to explain this to my "fiance" he agreed to give me my space, but said something that cought my attention. He wanted to know the reasons for me wanting my space, which I understand. I politly told him, im not happy, and i need time to clear my head, and figure things out. I told him that I feel he isnt putting any effort in, and maybe a break would be good for us both. Im sure I shouldn't have told him that I feel like he isnt puttung any effort in, but I felt like I needed to let it out. I told him I feel like Im chasing him, being there for him, getting him what he needs, trying to make things work. Then he told me he has been trying. The he said
" There is no chasing. Why does one of us have to chase each other. We are in a relationship TOGETHER. No one should be chasing anyone"
Now I was reading a former post of someone who feels that he is chasing his wife who cheated. And it got me thinking, is he suppose to chase me? or am i completly wrong here. Please let me know if am. Is he suppose to prove himself to me, and all of these things if he wants to be with me? Just a thought and a question. This is my first time dealing with this sort of thing, and Im not sure how this is suppose to work. We are in a relationship together, but is he right?
Last edited by lovie; 02-26-2009 at 06:40 AM.