MC says wives affair are always Husbands fault?

Almostrecovered · 03-30-2012, 09:12 AM

lots of things are men's fault- WWII for instance

morituri · 03-30-2012, 09:27 AM

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Originally Posted by Almostrecovered

lots of things are men's fault- WWII for instance

"When bad men combine, the good must associate; else they will fall one by one, an unpitied sacrifice in a contemptible struggle."

Edmund Burke

WhereAmI · 03-30-2012, 09:28 AM

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Originally Posted by calvin

No,I believe her,why in the hell would he want me to go to a 12 week program with other men and pay cash when last time my insurance was fine.BTW,when we first used him moths ago he did tell me he tends to take the womans side,for our IC he did an ok job but the MC sessions we had with him were'nt productive at all
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Well, that was a pretty big red flag. MCs are not there to take sides. If you ever hear that again, walk out.
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CantSitStill · 03-30-2012, 10:05 PM

Have any of you had a counselor that says there is a male and female in every person and that you need to get in touch with that male or female side??....in other words he kept saying Calvin needs to meet his female needs in order to be a good man. This counselor even said his female in him's name is Wendy and he knows that because of his dreams.
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Beowulf · 03-30-2012, 10:33 PM

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Have any of you had a counselor that says there is a male and female in every person and that you need to get in touch with that male or female side??....in other words he kept saying Calvin needs to meet his female needs in order to be a good man. This counselor even said his female in him's name is Wendy and he knows that because of his dreams.
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Oh God, you're kidding. I thought that type of psychotherapy went out of vogue in the 70's. Was this guy wearing a nehru jacket too?

morituri · 03-31-2012, 01:04 AM

The only female calvin has inside of him is YOU.

calvin · 03-31-2012, 05:47 AM

Yeah,he acctually called my inner woman calvina....ugh
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Beowulf · 03-31-2012, 07:58 PM

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Yeah,he acctually called my inner woman calvina....ugh
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I'm sorry but....hahahahahahahahahahahahahaha

You should have called his inner therapist Daffy.

calvin · 03-31-2012, 08:45 PM

yeah,yeah yuck it up
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CantSitStill · 03-31-2012, 09:07 PM

Sadly it's been hard to find anyone that's taking new patients..still trying to find someone tho..calling him was a last resort..after that convo not interested..making it all sound like it's the man's fault..I mean really ?? We need someone that will hold us both accountable and tweak us so we never fall in a rut again.
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Beowulf · 03-31-2012, 09:56 PM

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yeah,yeah yuck it up
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I'm sorry. But this is the craziest thing I've heard in a while. How in heavens name did you keep a straight face...or keep from decking him? I would have been looking for the secret cameras.

Beowulf · 03-31-2012, 10:02 PM

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Originally Posted by CantSitStill

Sadly it's been hard to find anyone that's taking new patients..still trying to find someone tho..calling him was a last resort..after that convo not interested..making it all sound like it's the man's fault..I mean really ?? We need someone that will hold us both accountable and tweak us so we never fall in a rut again.
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Keep looking. All I can say is from reading both your and Calvin's posts you guys are on the right track. The biggest things are that he is not rugsweeping and you aren't asking him to. That's huge. As long as you both continue communicating and working on the marriage you should keep making progress until you find another counselor.