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Old 05-01-2012, 12:39 PM   #166 (permalink)
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Where did Hunger go?
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Yep. Guess we set her off.
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She'll be back, just needs a little dose of reality by the OM.
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Hope her husband doesn't end up on the slab from an O.D.
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Initially I really thought she had a chance to recover her marriage. But she fell like so many other fall. It's sad. Worse for her husband. I really feel bad about the entire situation. Its so damned unnecessary.
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Initially I really thought she had a chance to recover her marriage. But she fell like so many other fall. It's sad. Worse for her husband. I really feel bad about the entire situation. Its so damned unnecessary.
Agreed. But she didn't seem to me to be grounded in reality at all.

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Just haven't had anything to say. My situation is sad but we are moving forward with our lives.
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Just haven't had anything to say. My situation is sad but we are moving forward with our lives.
Glad you're still with us. However things work out I just want you to know that Morrigan I are praying for both you and your husband.
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Glad you're still with us. However things work out I just want you to know that Morrigan I are praying for both you and your husband.
Thank you. I appreciate all of the help before. Some of the things written recently have really hit a soft spot because it is so easy for people to speculate from their own experiences. Although I understand the psychology; all of our situations are unique and not one person can truly understand what is going on inside my head.

I also don’t get the being attracted to guys that treat me like sh!t talk. No one is treating me bad and I have never been attracted to the “bad boys”.
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I have moved out and we are going through with the divorce.
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Thank you. I appreciate all of the help before. Some of the things written recently have really hit a soft spot because it is so easy for people to speculate from their own experiences. Although I understand the psychology; all of our situations are unique and not one person can truly understand what is going on inside my head.

I also don’t get the being attracted to guys that treat me like sh!t talk. No one is treating me bad and I have never been attracted to the “bad boys”.
You misunderstand what is meant by bad boys. The OM is not a good person. He knew you were married and manipulated the situation to his benefit. He used you for his sexual gratification and cares nothing about you other than what he can get from you. He is a bad boy and by sexually exploiting you and destroying your marriage he is treating you badly.

Hunger, this is the way of the new world. This is the new reality. Bad boys don't wear leather jackets and grease their hair. They wear suits and ties or T-shirts and jeans. They don't drive motorcycles. They drive Volvos and Volkswagens. They don't grab you by the hair and toss you around. They sweet talk you and coerce your panties off. Your OM is a new world bad boy and the fact that you don't see it shows me that you are still heavily fog bound.
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