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Old 05-04-2012, 09:08 PM   #211 (permalink)
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Of course he's missing tons of work,so did I!
YOU are the one to hold yourself accountable,NOT DADDY.I've read through all your threads,all I hear is me,me,me,me,me,me,me,me,me,me.
You appear to be self centered and spoiled.
His heart is not something to toy with.You want sympathy,understanding.And you lied about the lenght of time you contacted OM.

You cried yourself to sleep?Give me a break.Your hubby is going to OD and you still want to play high school games.Grow up and do the right thing and leave him alone,you already said you dont love him as a husband.If you feel bad for him put him on TAMs where these good folks will help him.
Lose the saftey net and go with the other man,you always have daddy to fall back on for $.What comes around goes around,someone will break your heart and not give a sh!t sooner or later.What youre doing is torture.
I used to think you got off to this,now I know you do.
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Agreed. Time to put up or shut up. You said you want to help your husband. He will obviously do whatever you ask. Then tell him he needs to post here. The advice we will give him will change his life. You will also find him more attractive after his transformation. After we open his eyes he prob would not want you but this is for him not you right.
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Old 05-04-2012, 10:19 PM   #212 (permalink)
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Of course he's missing tons of work,so did I!
YOU are the one to hold yourself accountable,NOT DADDY.I've read through all your threads,all I hear is me,me,me,me,me,me,me,me,me,me.
You appear to be self centered and spoiled.
His heart is not something to toy with.You want sympathy,understanding.And you lied about the lenght of time you contacted OM.

You cried yourself to sleep?Give me a break.Your hubby is going to OD and you still want to play high school games.Grow up and do the right thing and leave him alone,you already said you dont love him as a husband.If you feel bad for him put him on TAMs where these good folks will help him.
Lose the saftey net and go with the other man,you always have daddy to fall back on for $.
What comes around goes around,someone will break your heart and not give a sh!t sooner or later.What youre doing is torture.
I used to think you got off to this,now I know you do.
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Her husband has serious co dependency issues and a total Beta complex. He's probably the "giver" in the relationship
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Old 05-05-2012, 07:20 AM   #213 (permalink)
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Her husband has serious co dependency issues and a total Beta complex. He's probably the "giver" in the relationship
I really wish Hunger would send him here. It would certainly help him and who knows, maybe in a way her as well.
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Old 05-05-2012, 10:38 AM   #214 (permalink)
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I really wish Hunger would send him here. It would certainly help him and who knows, maybe in a way her as well.


But she will never bring him here, I dont think that she will wish to loose her cuckold/doormat.

But IDK How can a man degrade himself like this?
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Old 05-07-2012, 11:39 AM   #215 (permalink)
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I have told him about TAM and said he should check it out but he never will. He doesn't use computers.
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Old 05-07-2012, 02:46 PM   #216 (permalink)
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I have told him about TAM and said he should check it out but he never will. He doesn't use computers.
i love it when i see these statements. i can't, he won't, i don't have the time, what about the kids? You could, you will, you found the time and came up with solutions to lie and cheat. i think you can figure out a way to get him on here. You complian you have all day to think, well spend that thinking of how to get him on here. you say he is crying all the time and is begging for you back after cheating on him because you are all that but you can't get him to check out a web site.
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Old 05-07-2012, 03:00 PM   #217 (permalink)
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i love it when i see these statements. i can't, he won't, i don't have the time, what about the kids? You could, you will, you found the time and came up with solutions to lie and cheat. i think you can figure out a way to get him on here. You complian you have all day to think, well spend that thinking of how to get him on here. you say he is crying all the time and is begging for you back after cheating on him because you are all that but you can't get him to check out a web site.
Okay I will try harder. The problem is that I have the internet at work and he doesnt have the internet at home or at work. I have talked to him about TAM constantly, but he doesn't seem to be interested and honestly I just can't see him ever posting anything, though I would love for him to.
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Old 05-07-2012, 03:15 PM   #218 (permalink)
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What your (ex) husband really needs is a big shot of serotonin. The only way for him to get it is by exercising a lot. Healthy Mind, Healthy Body.
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Old 05-07-2012, 03:21 PM   #219 (permalink)
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What your (ex) husband really needs is a big shot of serotonin. The only way for him to get it is by exercising a lot. Healthy Mind, Healthy Body.
He is a very physically demanding job so he pretty much gets a work out everyday. Just saying.
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i love it when i see these statements. i can't, he won't, i don't have the time, what about the kids? You could, you will, you found the time and came up with solutions to lie and cheat. i think you can figure out a way to get him on here. You complian you have all day to think, well spend that thinking of how to get him on here. you say he is crying all the time and is begging for you back after cheating on him because you are all that but you can't get him to check out a web site.
Seriously? She can't MAKE him come here. Not all people want to air out their problems on the internet.
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I'm sick of this....

The problem is not the husband. Hunger is the problem.

She married a man whom she did not love to begin with and was not compatible with, cheated on him, and is now torn between her obvious love feelings for the OM and some twisted sense of loyalty to her husband who she likes alot but does not love one iota.

Hunger, get a damn divorce and quit torturing the poor man!

What the hell is the matter with you?
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Old 05-07-2012, 04:33 PM   #222 (permalink)
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Hunger it's to the point where no matter how much you hate it and no matter how hard it is, it is time for you to make your own decisions. Not sure this site can help you any more. No one is going to decide for you. It's called growing up. Yep growing up sucks but you have no choice. So glad you do not have any children at this time.
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I'm sick of this....

The problem is not the husband. Hunger is the problem.

She married a man whom she did not love to begin with and was not compatible with, cheated on him, and is now torn between her obvious love feelings for the OM and some twisted sense of loyalty to her husband who she likes alot but does not love one iota.

Hunger, get a damn divorce and quit torturing the poor man!

What the hell is the matter with you?
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I am letting him go.
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I am letting him go.

Who are you letting go, your husband or the OM? or both?
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