turnera

And she's right.

What have YOU done to make up for your past treatment of her? Are you in therapy now? Why not? Are you on ADs? Why not? Have you sat down and discussed a better marriage with her? Why not?

Brexin

We live on post, so technically its her house as she is the soldier

turnera

The ONLY way that can happen is if she cuts off ALL CONTACT with the OM. The fog has to clear before she can even SEE you, and that won't happen if she still contacts him. So now is the time to say - cut off all contact or move out.

turnera

Then tell her you're moving out with your son if she won't cut off all contact.

Is OM on the same base right now? Then you HAVE to report him.

Brexin

He is in the same unit as my wife pretty much yes

calif_hope

Communicate with OM and WW, no contact until YOU figure out what your going to do, if they break NC, you go to their command....which I think you should do anyway.
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Beowulf

WHAT? She is cheating on YOU. She got pregnant from someone other than YOU. Dude, get out now. This is a lost cause.

keko

She wants you to put in an effort when she is the one that got pregnant by OM? Man, where did you find a wife like this? Report her ***!

Brexin

Working on what im going to say to her now O.o

I usually have to write myself either flashcards or a script to read from when talking about these things because i always forget stuff, and sometimes draw a blank right from the start of the conversation

bandit.45

Just tell her "Goodbye, my lawyer will be in touch with you.". File for divorce and "go dark" on her. No contact whatsoever except through attorney.
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Beowulf

I'll make it easy for you.

Say

We're done. I'm reporting you both to the CO.

No flashcards necessary.

keko

Don't ever use flash cards. Ever.

The more beta you look, the more babies you'll support from OM.

crossbar

*facepalm*

Okay, it's not her house because she is the Soldier. They (military) will make her leave while you and the kids stay in Base housing. SHE has somewhere to go. They will put her in a room at the Barracks while the issue gets resolved! They can't make you move into the Barracks!

And you written that you're figuring out what to tell her. Here's what you tell her....nothing. Not a damn thing! You don't think that the OM is already grilling her about information about you, about where your head is at? He wants to know what your game plan is in the WORST way!

It's unfortunate, but in some units, the SNCO's and Officers are part of the "good ol' Boys club" and they look out for each other. So, the more time you sit on this, you're giving them more time to rug sweep this if they can. The less people know about this, the better. Your giving him WAY TOO MUCH TIME to work a game plan.

You need to call Post/Base legal and tell them what's going on and you're looking for them to resolve the issue or else you're going to write your Congressman about it. DO NOT TELL YOUR WIFE YOU ARE DOING THIS!!! She'll just warn the OM. If Base Legal gets involved, the Unit has NO CHOICE but to address it. Her Colonel is so close to a Staff Officer position that he/she isn't going to let some Staff Sargent screwing your wife mess that up for him or her with a Congressional Inquiry.

If your wife gets mad, remember you didn't do this, they did. If she asks you why? Just say, " You wanted me to take the first steps into fixing this, I just took it."

Call Base Legal TODAY!!! AS IN RIGHT NOW!!!!

Damn, I'm becoming a regular Sea Lawyer here!

Brexin

I would if there was no kids involved

I just dont want to forget anything

This made me lol, thank you

crossbar

What are you doing talking to me! You should be on the phone with Legal! Let me know what they said!