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Old 04-03-2012, 09:32 AM   #16 (permalink)
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You only live once and deserve to be happy, spiritually, mentally, physically and sexually. I would be very understanding in your position. At least you are still in the marriage in some capacity. I wish that the advice on here was not always: counseling and STD.s. That just seems to easy. Yes it is possible to cheat without regrets however this opinion might just be in the minority.
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I guess happiness in this case excludes trust, respect and honesty. So yes, if you want to be selfish and disregard the consequesnces of your actions then cheating with no regrets is possible.
Funny but one of the things that make me truly happy is seeing my husband smile and knowing that I am the reason for that smile...(I doubt he'd be smiling much if I was handing out BJ's to strangers while he was incapacitated).
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Old 04-03-2012, 09:35 AM   #17 (permalink)
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Your husband should dump you and find himself someone like Mrs T, a woman who values her husband not just in words but in deeds as well.
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Is it possible to have a long lasting amazing marriage but cheat without regrets?
I think the sky is the limit once you get rid of that pesky little thing that the rest of us call a conscience. I mean ... nobody actually believes those things we say when we're trying to convince that other person to spend the rest of their life with us, do they (well ... except for him, that is)? What he doesn't know won't hurt him, right? Since you cherish the idea of an amazing life, you'll certainly let him make the best of his remissions with a fiesty young woman once your body starts getting all wrinkly and repulsive, won't you?
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3 months? You only held out for 3 months? For shaaaaaaame.
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Old 04-03-2012, 10:41 AM   #20 (permalink)
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Your husband should dump you and find himself someone like Mrs T, a woman who values her husband not just in words but in deeds as well.
Thanks Mori, I do value him more than anything, he's the total opposite of the first jackazz I was married to. I want him in my life always.
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If no guilt, then why lie? Why on this site asking questions? If no guilt then what exactly is your question? If you had no guilt your H would know already and you wouldn't need to be here asking for some sort of help. fact is you SHOULD feel guilty because you are a cheater.
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No guilt = no conscience = no soul
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Why do I keep seeing "Deserves happiness", "Deserves to have this and that" from posters?

Since when does anybody on the face of this earth "deserve" anything? There are no promises, nothing is guaranteed, nothing is owed to anyone, no one enters this life with a list of things they "deserve".

You get what you are willing to work for - pure and simple - be it money, happiness, self respect, and the list goes on.

Sorry for the rant. It just irritates me when people justify bad behavior by saying I "deserve" this or that, and that is why I cheated and lied.
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Love it TDSC60...LOVE IT!
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Why do I keep seeing "Deserves happiness", "Deserves to have this and that" from posters?

Since when does anybody on the face of this earth "deserve" anything? There are no promises, nothing is guaranteed, nothing is owed to anyone, no one enters this life with a list of things they "deserve".

You get what you are willing to work for - pure and simple - be it money, happiness, self respect, and the list goes on.

Sorry for the rant. It just irritates me when people justify bad behavior by saying I "deserve" this or that, and that is why I cheated and lied.
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Old 04-03-2012, 11:46 AM   #27 (permalink)
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Do you have any guilt for treating your husband like a fool, the lies, the deceit. My cousin who was a BH still, years later, has trouble with the fact that he had interaction in his community with his FWW(ex) AP.....the AP shaking his hand, sitting in meetings - not knowing this guy was f%#king his wife.....he wonders what the AP was thinking - he of course imagines the worse.

You husband deserves to know!
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Oh my gosh, I have rheumatoid arthritis and would be devestated! What does "in sickness and in health" mean to you?
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