Im not married to the man I love

Shaggy · 04-04-2012, 12:51 PM

Out your affair partner to his wife. You'll find your love quickly fading as he calls you every name in the book, including crazy and a liar to his wife.

You are nothing but a nice young piece of meat for his use, you are nothing but a service provider. That's the reality of who you love.
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Jellybeans · 04-04-2012, 12:53 PM

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Originally Posted by bandit.45

Caprica,

Excuse me if I'm dense, but does this mean the affair went physical?

Duuuh (no offense, Bandit, lol)

bryanp · 04-04-2012, 12:59 PM

You and your husband need to get tested for STD's. These are the consequences to affairs. Good luck.

kittykat09 · 04-04-2012, 01:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Gabriel

KittyKat - believe me, I know it's her fault. I am a BS!! I guess I made the leap from that to the next step of how to get to the root of why she cheated, and to see how they could fix it if they decided to reconcile. If I implied it was his fault, that was not my intention at all.

I just assumed everyone knew she was at fault already - and was moving on to the next phase of this. Skipped a couple of steps I guess.

Righto.

My apologies then, I thought you placing blame on him. XD In the context you meant it, your post makes sense and you're right that in the case of reconciliation he would need to make changes as well.

Caprica_six · 04-04-2012, 01:01 PM

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Originally Posted by Jellybeans

Caprica--you need to block the OM from your FB (and phone and email, etc). Does he know your husband knows? Did you husband say anything to him?

Yes he knows my husband knows. I haven't spoken to him since. deleted from facebook blocked from email deleted number & asked him not to contact me.

Jellybeans · 04-04-2012, 01:02 PM

Good! And I agree with Bryan--you & husband need to get tested STAT for STDs.

Caprica_six · 04-04-2012, 01:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Jellybeans

Good! And I agree with Bryan--you & husband need to get tested STAT for STDs.

Well My husband doesn't!

But yeah,

also, we have been married for 4 years, was with HIM for 5 months

Jellybeans · 04-04-2012, 01:06 PM

You haven't had sex with your husband at all since the affair began?

Caprica_six · 04-04-2012, 01:08 PM

Ive tried,

like i said the first while of this was just text fb chat and phone calls.

I always initiated sex with him but he was never in the mood. we had sex once since I met the guy but never since I slept with him.

bandit.45 · 04-04-2012, 01:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Jellybeans

Duuuh (no offense, Bandit, lol)

Okay, okay....

bandit.45 · 04-04-2012, 01:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Caprica_six

Ive tried,

like i said the first while of this was just text fb chat and phone calls.

I always initiated sex with him but he was never in the mood. we had sex once since I met the guy but never since I slept with him.

It is possible your husband has low testosterone levels. Have you ever had him checked?

Caprica_six · 04-04-2012, 01:14 PM

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Originally Posted by bandit.45

It is possible your husband has low testosterone levels. Have you ever had him checked?

Ive never thought about it really.

he is very manly, goes to the gym all the time etc.

hes always been like this since we met. He is very shy and conservative in that department and im the opposite. I have spoken to him about this before but he just gets embarrassed and shy about the conversation.

Shaggy · 04-04-2012, 01:16 PM

Is it also possible your husband detected in his gut that you've pulled away and he hasn't felt desire for you because you abandoned him emotionally, and the physically?
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WhereAmI · 04-04-2012, 01:19 PM

Are you planning on informing the OMW of the affair? She deserves to know.
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Caprica_six · 04-04-2012, 01:29 PM

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Are you planning on informing the OMW of the affair? She deserves to know.
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That's for him to tell his wife. My husband chose not to and I have no desire to.