Im not married to the man I love

kittykat09 · 04-04-2012, 01:30 PM

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Originally Posted by Caprica_six

That's for him to tell his wife. My husband chose not to and I have no desire to.

Doesn't sound like remorse to me then?

Jellybeans · 04-04-2012, 01:36 PM

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Originally Posted by Caprica_six

Ive tried,

like i said the first while of this was just text fb chat and phone calls.

I always initiated sex with him but he was never in the mood. we had sex once since I met the guy but never since I slept with him.

So...when was the last time you had sex with your husband?

Caprica_six · 04-04-2012, 01:37 PM

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Originally Posted by kittykat09

Doesn't sound like remorse to me then?

Im not remorseful because I don't want to tell his wife? That's his life not mine. Ill fix things with my Husband and he can deal with whatever he chooses to do with his wife.

Caprica_six · 04-04-2012, 01:38 PM

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Originally Posted by Jellybeans

So...when was the last time you had sex with your husband?

The last time I had sex with him was November, before that in June.

Shaggy · 04-04-2012, 01:38 PM

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Originally Posted by Caprica_six

That's for him to tell his wife. My husband chose not to and I have no desire to.

Well then he will be contacting you again for more consequence free (to him) sex since he knows he can and that you will.
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warlock07 · 04-04-2012, 01:39 PM

Well you did sh!t on her life didn't you? That is her husband you f@cked for 5 months. It is a different matter if he was a single guy. You guys did not have affair in vacuum. It was in real life while she is married to him

Jellybeans · 04-04-2012, 01:39 PM

He can't contact her now since she's blocked him, (thank God).
Unless...at work--which is why she needs to leave that job.

Caprica_six · 04-04-2012, 01:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Shaggy

Well then he will be contacting you again for more consequence free (to him) sex since he knows he can and that you will.
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Umm, no, I won't. I made a mistake, I realise that. Im not going to make it again.

Jellybeans · 04-04-2012, 01:40 PM

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Originally Posted by warlock07

Well you did sh!t on her life didn't you? That is her husband you f@cked for 5 months. It is a different matter if he was a single guy. You guys did not have affair in vacuum. It was in real life while she is married to him

Actually -- 7 months--the affair started about 7 months ago according to her original post.

bandit.45 · 04-04-2012, 01:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Caprica_six

The last time I had sex with him was November, before that in June.

How bout when you guys were dating and newlyweds? What was the frequency then?

Caprica_six · 04-04-2012, 01:41 PM

I started the job 7 months ago, the emotional affair started about 6 months ago the physical almost 5

Caprica_six · 04-04-2012, 01:42 PM

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Originally Posted by bandit.45

How bout when you guys were dating and newlyweds? What was the frequency then?

Frequency has always been poor when we first slept together it was every other day for about a month and then it gone less (Obviously)
when we were married we didn't sleep together for months after our wedding and for months before it.

kittykat09 · 04-04-2012, 01:43 PM

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Originally Posted by warlock07

Well you did sh!t on her life didn't you? That is her husband you f@cked for 5 months. It is a different matter if he was a single guy. You guys did not have affair in vacuum. It was in real life while she is married to him

This and Shaggy's post, completely. If you were remorseful you would realize that his wife deserves the truth as well. His feelings shouldn't matter to you- dealing with his wife is HIS problem and you should not be protecting him from her. You are leaving loopholes for future affairs with the guy. You can say you won't, but if you were serious there would be scorched earth going on here.

Shaggy · 04-04-2012, 01:45 PM

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Umm, no, I won't. I made a mistake, I realise that. Im not going to make it again.

I know you intend to, but I'm guessing you didn't planon cheating either with a marred man. The fact is affair partners do return, fishing to reopen things and you need to plan for it.

He may say , how are you feeling? Is your marriage working out? Wanna have coffee? He will be caring, kind and sensitive. He will deny wanting anything. If you give him even an inch, he will push and push until you are in bed with him again.

Just wait he will do it.
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bandit.45 · 04-04-2012, 01:46 PM

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Frequency has always been poor when we first slept together it was every other day for about a month and then it gone less (Obviously)
when we were married we didn't sleep together for months after our wedding and for months before it.

Then why in the hell did you marry a man with whom you were not sexually compatible? My god in heaven!